Are Second Children More Easy Going?Lauren Jimeson
Soon after I gave birth to Harlan, I was very aware of how different my life was going to be. All of my attention was focused on Harlan and her needs. If she cried, I’d pick her up right away. My daily schedule revolved around her. It was all about Harlan, all the time.
When Avery was born, I knew that it wasn’t going to be as easy as the first time around. I now had two little ones to take care of. My attention couldn’t be solely focused on Avery because I still had Harlan to look after. If Avery cried, I’d still run to get her, but it wasn’t as quickly as it was before. Mainly because Harlan needed my attention as well. It was never intentional. It was just impossible to be in two places at once.
As the year with both girls has passed, I’m always told how easy going Avery is. She always has a smile on her face and rarely cries. If she doesn’t get her way then she fusses a little bit and tries to find a way to try to do it herself. I call it the second child syndrome.
Avery goes with the flow. She appreciates routine, but if we are out of sorts, she just adapts to it. She’s never had separation anxiety and will easily welcome anyone who wants to hold her. I always call her my easy baby, because she is really up for anything.
Just last night my sister took her over to her apartment for her very first sleepover. I was so worried that she wasn’t going to sleep well because she was in a strange environment and neither my husband or I were there with her. But every single photo that my sister sent me was a happy and smiling baby. Immediately all of my fears and worries were gone.
But I constantly think to myself, can she really be this chill? Although Harlan was never a difficult baby, it definitely took her some time to adapt to new situations. She thrived by her routine and when she needed my attention, she needed it right then and there. She’s very much still that way.
I know that every child has their own distinct personality, but I can’t help but wonder if these are personality traits of first and second children. As the oldest child in my family, I see many similarities in myself with Harlan. My sister, who is only 13 months younger than me, is very similar to Avery in that she’s a go with the flow kind of girl.
For those mamas with two kids, can you relate or is this just the different personalities of my two little girls?
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