Attached by Default

Baby in Miracle Blanket
Can I sleep on you? PS I am a boy even though this Miracle Blanket is Pink. It was my cousin's.

A couple nights ago, after the Night Feed Shuffle, somebody was awake, and for once, it wasn’t me. The Fuzzball was wiggling around in his co-sleeper, attempting to escape from his Miracle Blanket. This went on for what seemed like an hour, but was probably only about fifteen or so minutes.

“He wants more milk.” says the husband. This is his default phrase when he wants to hand off the baby. And my response? Keep Reading…

“No, I just fed him” says me, refusing to open my eyelids. We did the ‘Feed, Diaper, Burp, Swaddle’ combination for this particular round.

“This is ridiculous. He won’t go to sleep.” The husband, being sleep deprived himself, gave up and plopped the Fuzzball next to me in the bed. I opened my eyes to see Fuzz instantaneously fall asleep. Like, that second.

Then, this afternoon, I put the Fuzz down for a nap. He fell asleep on my bed but then only 15 minutes later woke up and was kicking around again. I lay down next to him and looked him in the eyes.

“Are you done sleeping?” I asked.

Fuzz gave me a huge ear-to-ear grin, closed his eyes and fell asleep.

The insta-mama-sleep didn’t just start in the last few days. I remembered last week, during the Fuzzball’s “Fuss-ball” time in the evening, the husband was bouncing him on the ball trying to calm him down. He was particularly fussy, and we could tell he was tired, but when we tried to put him down, he wouldn’t have it, even though he was fully swaddled and ready. Finally, husband handed him over to me, (again, default mode) thinking maybe he was still hungry. Before I got a chance to move him into position, he was asleep on me.

This pattern is definitely cute, although perhaps not one hundred percent convenient. While I don’t consider myself an “Attached Parent,” I definitely use more elements of attachment parenting than any other ‘method’ of parenting. However, I dislike the concept of even using a ‘method’ of parenting and prefer to follow my instinct. In this case, it feels right. At least he doesn’t need to be constantly nursing. Just near me, and geez, I’m super happy to be near him too. This is good news for me, since I had a really hard time sleeping near the Shnook until recently. Does your baby fall asleep best near or on you?

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