Big Kids and Babies

Fern and her new "big kid" friend.

Before I actually had a baby, I always wanted to have my future offspring closely spaced.  My brother and I are 18 months apart and my husband and his brother are 20 months apart, so it’s what I’ve always known and what I had always envisioned my future family looking like.  Now that I actually have a baby though, I’m not so sure.

There are many things to take into consideration with child spacing, but the appeal of spacing my future babies a little bit more is sounding better and better, especially after my experience this past weekend with the big kid/baby mix.

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Over the weekend we were camping with a group of friends and one of them had an almost 7-year-old girl who was so helpful with Fern!  There were other kids her own age to play with, but she was completely smitten with Fern and the feeling was definitely mutual.  It was so nice to have someone there to feed and distract Fern so I didn’t have to hold her the entire time and it made me think about how nice it might be to wait a little bit longer to have more babies so that Fern would be a little bit older and could help out.

My original thinking was that it might be nice to just crank out babies quickly and move on, but with a body that is still recovering from birth (in more ways than one) I’m not in a particular rush to repeat the process just yet and not having two children in diapers at the same time sounds really nice.

I suppose, I have plenty of time to decide since Fern is only 5 months old still, but it’s something worth consideration.


What are your plans for child spacing?  Are you only planning to have one child?  If you’re having more, how far apart would you like to space them ideally?


Lauren Hartmann is the founder of The Little Things We Do, a blog about life and adventures in Portland Oregon. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook, or catch up on all of her posts here on Babble.

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