8 months old

Finding mom friends

Of course your best friend since 5th grade and your college roommate will always be close to your heart, but sometimes you need to connect with people who get just how exciting, challenging and all-consuming motherhood can be. You need to find someone happy to chat about poop, breasts and vomit – in an appropriate way, of course. Yet finding the right mom friend can be quite a challenge, if not downright awkward:

  • Get out of the house. If you aren’t back at work full time, you’re going to have to put yourself out there and look for your future friend.
  • Playgrounds are a good place to start, but keep in mind that you’ll have to introduce yourself and strike up conversation.
  • You can also join playgroups, mommy-and-me classes and other baby-centered activities.
  • If you can’t find any local playgroups, why not start one yourself? Simply put up flyers at your supermarket, doctor’s office, gym and/or apartment complex, and coordinate it at your house (and then rotate from house to house).
  • If you’re back at work, it’s going to be harder to find mom friends unless you can find colleagues with a baby of similar age.
  • However, day care can be a good opportunity to meet other moms, as can weekend activities and errands.
  • Another good aspect of childcare is that you can set up play dates with your baby’s friends, which gives moms a better chance to know one another.
  • You might feel like you’re back in high school, choosing your pick-up line (“Your baby is so cute! How old is she?) and striking up conversation out of nowhere. It might feel even more awkward swapping phone numbers and e-mail addresses with a stranger.
  • Even though you might feel nervous and uncomfortable, keep in mind that most moms want to make new friends just as much as you do.
  • While some moms will whip out their iPhones and others will scribble contact information onto a piece of scrap paper, the true mommy dating pros have their own “Mommy Cards.”
    • Even some professional work-at-the-office moms like to have separate business cards made up with their personal contact information, solely for the purpose of connecting with other moms.
  • One of the most difficult aspects of finding good mom friends is that you want to make sure you have more in common than just motherhood. And when new moms can range from 20 to 40 years old, there can sometimes be quite a generational gap amongst a group of moms.
  • If a face-to-face approach isn’t your style, many modern moms are connecting on the Internet:
    • Join a parenting listserv, which is a regionally based online exchange of questions, advice and support. From the most family-friendly restaurants to controversial topics and opinions, parenting listservs can be a great way to engage with moms in your area. (Interested? We rounded up the Top 12 Listserv Parenting Networks in the country.)
    • People are also using social media as a tool to connect. From sites like Circle of Moms to Twitter, parents are making virtual friends without ever handing over a business card. (Check out Babble’s list of Top 50 Twitter Moms you should follow.)
    • And of course there is the always-growing mom blogosphere, where ordinary moms are allowed (actually encouraged) to be confessional, controversial and even trivial at times. You’d be surprised how fast you bond with strangers going through the exact same feelings and experiences, especially when no one holds back on detailing exactly what parenting is really like. Things you could never say in playgroup are suddenly being spilled on the computer screen – and thousands of other moms know exactly what you’re going through. Looking for the best mom blogs? We compiled the Top 50 Mom Blogs for 2010. And with so many blog conferences around the country (the biggest being the annual BlogHer event), you can actually meet these virtual friends.

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19 thoughts on “Newborn Care: An introduction to your newborn baby’s health

  1. Maribel Riel says:

    Since its my first baby i want to learn more. Your site is a good help for a first time mom like me. Thanks

  2. pavani says:

    thanks for providing information

  3. nancy inyene bassey says:

    My baby has cough and cattarh.

  4. kamakshi says:

    my baby has cough and cold tele me home medicine

  5. Faith victor says:

    This site is very informative. I appreciate it. Thank

  6. Chitra kohli says:

    thanx

  7. damsel says:

    my baby is 10 month she’s vomiting & her stool is white & watery.is it symptom of teeting?

  8. Eme says:

    am so afraid i could be pregnant four months after birth,though i have not seen my period and my husband came into me today.cos i allowed it. Could i be pregnant?

  9. JJ says:

    Hi i dont knw much bt the stools being white cud b something to do with liver of baby bt only if its like chalk white bt hope its not that id take my lo to docters just to make sure cuz the colour of stool is a big concern and the vomiting ofcause bt hope baby gets better

  10. Mythily says:

    I was just gonna buy a pair of shoes for my 11 months old and lucky that i got to read this. Very helpful, thanks.

  11. bimal says:

    my baby is seven month old but can not sit up now what problem

  12. de dun says:

    My 6 month old is teething,she has cold and cattarh and hasn’t bn feeding well
    Am really worried

  13. madhumita rath says:

    my baby has cough &cold problem plz suggest me how to protect

  14. Tberry says:

    More enlightment on two month old baby.

  15. selamawit says:

    really good guide lines for all first time mom like me. thanks!

  16. My baby 4months and two weeks, he can roll over, pulling up, but he can’t sit without support. He can grab things and try to put in the mouth. He can only smile but not laughing, he blow bubbles a lot, yet he doesn’t recognize her name

  17. carol says:

    am a working lady and i breast feed my baby only at night but he has not yet seated yet he’s now 5 months ,what could be the problem?

  18. miriam says:

    My 4 months old baby is very active. feeds only on breast milk. Could d breast milk be the cause?

  19. jess says:

    Are you bottle or breast feeding?

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