4 months old
Sex After Pregnancy
You may have rekindled your romance a time or two – but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to find the time, energy or desire to have sex. And even if your baby is soundly sleeping, your legs happen to be hair-free and the stars magically align, many women still experience physical discomfort during intimacy. Even though you may have physically and mentally recovered from the delivery, those pesky hormones are causing even more problems – this time in the bedroom.
Besides being notorious for zapping libido, postpartum hormones go one step further by depleting you of vaginal lubrication – resulting in months of uncomfortable dryness, possibly longer for those breastfeeding.
- Lubrication is your friend. Stock up on some personal lubricant, like K-Y Jelly, until your natural juices start flowing again.
- Take it slow. We know that postpartum sex tends to be a compilation of quickies rather than long, luxurious love making (your baby might wake up!), but try to fit in take-it-slow foreplay – even if it’s just a massage or steamy bath – to get your body warmed up.
- Start doing your Kegels. Once again the almighty fix-all, from urinary incontinence to sexual pleasure, these exercises won’t increase lubrication, but will bring back more vaginal sensations. (That’s your cue – start clenching.)