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I Can't Imagine Being a Teen Mom

By Molly Thornberg |

teen momFor the last several years MTV has brought to our attention what it’s like to be 16 and Pregnant and a Teen Mom. While these reality tv encounters portray just a slice of these teenagers’ lives – I often think about what I would do in their situations.

At 33, I struggle to be the mom that I want to be. Knowing what it takes to be a mom, I just don’t think I could handle being a teen mom.

As I watch the reality shows featuring pregnant teenagers, it’s so easy to judge. But while we are quick to judge, how often do we think back to what we were like during our teen years?

My teen years were depressing, rebellious and chaotic. If I had been a pregnant teenager, it would of been in the 90′s. The idea of adoption most likely wouldn’t of crossed my mind. I could of cared less about school – all I cared to do was party or hang out with my friends. I wouldn’t of taken care of myself through out the pregnancy. And while I am sure I’d of loved to play dress up the baby like a grunge baby in a cute little flannel – that would been the extent of what I would of enjoyed about motherhood. 

One of my dearest friends was a teen mom. Her story is amazing. Her child is now a teenager and she has made a life for herself not letting any excuses, including a teen pregnancy hold her back from success.

Being a new mom is a hard season in life. There are so many joys – but so many times I just want to waive the white flag. And that’s with having a husband, an income and a career path.

If you are or were a teen mom, I applaud you. I know it can be done. I know that while adoption might be right in certain situations that good can come from a teenage pregnancy. It’s just a harder struggle.

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Molly Thornberg is a wife and mother of four. She worked in web design and social media marketing before quitting to pursue blogging full time. On Digital Mom Blog, Molly shares "geeky" DIY projects, discusses the latest technology news, and talks about her life as a parent. Read bio and latest posts → Read Molly's latest posts →

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5 thoughts on “I Can't Imagine Being a Teen Mom

  1. Summer Owens says:

    I became a teen mom at age 15 by someone I didn’t know. I tell my whole story in my book, Life After Birth: A Memoir of Survival and Success as a Teenage Mother. http://www.lifeafterbirthbook.com

  2. Liz says:

    I don’t watch the show so I don’t really know what the moms on there are like, but I was a teen mom. I got pregnant a couple of months before my sixteenth birthday. I have grown, changed, matured, and learned so, so much within the seven years of being a mom and learning about life through the eyes of my son.

    I really never had a chance to know what life is like being a childless, single adult. All I have ever known in my adult life is motherhood. So it is hard to imagine the kind of person I would be now, at 23, if I was childless and single. I am sure the difference would be unrecognizable – like night and day.

    I am a decade or more younger than most of my friends. But there is no difference between me and them. Age is just a number, and one that I don’t talk about too much, but nobody judges me. We share common interests, goals, and lifestyles, so what does a number have to do with anything? Nobody asks and nobody seems to notice.

    All of this to say, being a mom made me grow up quite differently. I hear people say that they are in their 30′s or 40′s just entering parenthood and could never imagine what they would have been like if they became a mom in their early 20′s, or teens. But you become a different person by being a mom. It’s like your personality changes, you life purpose and passion changes. Your destiny changes. And now, seeing what has become, I definitely wouldn’t change my life for the world.

  3. Jude Strib says:

    While motherhood seems to come easily to me now (at 35) I too can’t imagine having done it at as a teen. I would have been so bad, so lazy, so inpatient.

  4. Jude Strib says:

    I should clarify motherhood has been natural and pretty easy now. The first 2 months was brutal. With me trying to learn the baby, the baby trying to learn me, and my repeated failures at breast feeding.

  5. Hope says:

    speaking as a teen mother myself, i never thought i’d ever even have children due to a medical condition i have. i didnt even find out i was pregnant until 23 weeks..and from the moment i knew about my daughter i loved and wanted her. she is now a year old and no one ever thinks im a teen mom because they all think im between the ages of 21-25 (When im actually turning 17 this summer..) but i had to mature quickly because of my life already and my daughter saved me from the bad things in my life. I know people judge me once they hear my age but I’ve seen 45 year old mothers who do a terrible job ( you dont even want to know what i’ve seen! ) and I know i do a good job since everyone who meets my daughter says she the most beautiful happy baby they’ve ever seen. I live on my own since her father lives 6 hours away and is finishing his last year in college, and I’m trying to finish high school which is hard (not because im a teen mom but because i have a medical condition for which im in the hospital for everyone month pretty much) and on top of that all? I’ve exclusively breastfed for the past year and that includes breastfeeding my daughter while i was in the hospital for a week with ivs in my arms! I know i am a good mother and im NOT ashamed of being a teen mom, i do not like that show because it shows the stereotypes and some teen moms are like that but i know i am not!

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