Their circ-stance: "Unfortunately, as the debate gets heated, some harsh words can come up: 'mutilation' (for circumcision) and 'unclean' (for uncircumcised) are two biggies. Those words may help cement an opinion, but more often they are an upsetting distraction. Though sometimes stressful, making a decision about circumcision can be an opportunity for parents to have productive, even philosophical conversations."
Their circ-stance: "While there are some medical benefits to circumcision (and the new HIV research is certainly intriguing), the benefits are not clear enough for any medical group to advocate for the procedure. It is a very personal decision, without a right or wrong answer. And while it is hard to assess how circumcision affects sexual pleasure, I don't think either group of men is complaining."
Snippet of advice: It may seem strange to consider factors like how circumcision might affect your son's future sex life, but, as Fields and Dr. Brown remind us, you are making a decision for your son's lifetime. (Also interestingly, they provide a disclaimer before they even begin their discussion of circumcision, likening it to a "friendly" discussion on abortion.)
Her circ-stance: "If you sit down and make a list of the pros and cons of circumcision, you'll find the list to be fairly evenly balanced. Even the American Academy of Pediatrics acknowledges that the arguments for and against the procedure are about on par. While it has spoken out against routine circumcision, it acknowledges that parents have to make up their own minds about the issue, factoring in their own personal, religious, or cultural factors."
Snippet of advice: This is not a snip, err, snap decision, Douglas says. Take time to really learn about both options, and then decide which you and your partner feel most comfortable with.
Her circ-stance: "You may be surprised to learn, as I was, that it's the obstetrician, not the pediatrician, who does the tip clipping if you want your son circumcised at the hospital. If you don't think this is an important skill, just ask your mate's opinion. Some doctors seem to leave too much foreskin, some clip too far back, and it is still quite variable as to whether a topical anesthetic is used to mitigate the pain."
Snippet of advice: Talk to your girlfriends about how well they feel their doctors performed their sons' circumcisions. (It may be worth it to you to call and talk to that doc about the procedure.)
Her circ-stance: "Circumcision is probably the oldest medical procedure still performed. Though the most widely known historical record of the practice is in the Old Testament, when Abraham circumcised Isaac, its origins are lost in antiquity, probably going back before the use of metal tools."
Their circ-stance: "Since little boys do sometimes compare the styles of their penis, many parents feel that sameness is important among brothers."
Snippet of advice: Even if Baby's father or older brother is circumcised, that doesn't mean this baby has to be. "Just as you learn a lot from your first birth and may choose a different style for the next, not every male in the family must be circumcised," the Searses say.
Snippet of advice: Letting Dad play a major role in making this decision will lead to increased input in future childrearing matters. (He does not, unfortunately, go so far as to say your partner will likely also change more diapers.)
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Their circ-stance: "In America, many women are used to, and prefer, the circumcised look, and we can only assume that they assume their son's future girlfriends will too. Some dads worry that their sons will be teased if their looks don't conform to the majority of boys in the locker room."