Getting Into a Family Rut


Getting Into a Family RutSometimes it can be really easy to fall into a rut in one’s marriage. I’m sure anyone who has been married for more than a few months knows what I’m talking about. It’s just human nature. You get used to each other, fall into a comfortable routine and the next thing you know you’re pooping with the door open (*Side note: We totally don’t do this – it’s one of our rules. But, it was the first thing I thought of.).

It is because of the “ruts” that many couples make it a point to go on regular date nights and I think this is a great idea. But, what many people don’t stop to think about is the fact that you can fall into these same “ruts” as a family.

For us, since I work from home and stay with Fern, most of the daily tasks and outings with Fern end up being with just me. Play dates, grocery trips, little drives – all of these happen with just Fern and I. It’s kind of rare that my husband accompanies us places. Generally during the weekend, he stays home since he’s been away at work all week and has plenty of remodeling projects to keep him busy here. When he does leave the house, it’s usually just the two of us for a date night while Fern stays home with the grandparents.

But, this Friday night when he came home, he surprised us with a family date to one of our favorite restaurants here in Portland. He just came home from work and told me we were going to dinner – such a fun surprise. Friday nights usually just involve take out at home, so this was fun for all of us.

I’m sure a lot of you are already doing things like this, but I thought I’d share what a great time this was for us in hopes that some of you who find it easy to fall into a family rut, like us, might give it a try. A little family date night was just what we needed!


Lauren Hartmann is the founder of The Little Things We Do, a blog about life and adventures in Portland Oregon. Follow her on TwitterFacebookPinterest and Instagram or catch up on all of her posts here on Babble.

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