When Do You Give Unsolicited Advice?

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When do you give advice without being asked?

There was a recent situation with an acquaintance who had just had her first baby. The baby is a few weeks old and is –  of course is ridiculously adorable.

The mom is stressed and well… clueless.

Something I have learned on this motherhood journey is that just because I have many kids doesn’t make me an expert. Even if I was an expert – if we’re not close, don’t expect advice from me. If you ask for it, I’ll let you hear it. If you don’t want to hear it – just don’t ask.

Anywho – so this first time mom was with her baby who was screaming. The situation was painful.

It was the ultimate cliché of a first time mom. The baby was crying. The mom was flustered. Finally after feeding, rocking and changing the baby – she’s blurts out “OH burp, I forgot to burp him!”. I could feel her stress and panic. The mom grabbed the baby and proceeds to tap in the his little back in the lightest manner. Maybe I’m just an agressive burper, but that tap was more like a tap on the shoulder not a burp!  Needless to say, I left not giving my unsolicited advice.

I know for me, I was in such a stubborn mindset I couldn’t hear anyone’s advice. I felt like they were poo pooin’ my parenting skills. Hence probably why I am so reluctant to dish any words of baby wisdom.

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What would YOU do?  And when do you want advice?

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