Yesterday while running errands, I found myself in a bit of a “what would you do” predicament. As a self-proclaimed seasoned babywearer, I saw a mom wearing her new baby (the baby looked to be about 6 weeks old, tops) in a Moby wrap, the wrong way.
I’m positive the baby could have fallen out. She was wearing her baby in a fashion that was not secure or safe at all for the child.My shy and introverted self instantly started wrestling with whether or not I should approach this complete stranger.
On the one hand, unsolicited parenting advice from strangers is so annoying. I hate it when people I don’t know approach me with how to handle my children. And in order to help her, I probably would have had to touch her and her baby, which would have made me uncomfortable. Stranger anxiety? I have it big time. Additionally, I would have had to approach her in a very busy parking lot (as we were walking out of the store, each of use with a cart full of groceries), and I had all 4 of my kids will me. Yes I know, only crazy insane people bring 4 kids under 7 to get groceries on a busy Friday afternoon.
On the other hand, the baby was not safe the way the mom was wearing the wrap. I know first hand how horrible it feels to drop your baby, and I would hate for her (and the baby) to experience that. Additionally, wearing a baby in a complicated wrap is tricky at first. Those big long pieces of fabric take some finessing to get them worn just the right way, she was probably just inexperienced and didn’t know better. Maybe she would have appreciated my help?
I’ve thought long and hard about this. If I was in her shoes, I think I would want a stranger to tell me I was doing it wrong. I probably would walk away feeling like an idiot, but moving forward I would be grateful for the help and instruction.
Ultimately, I let the woman and her baby get to her car and drive away. Did I do the right thing? Nope, I don’t think so.
The right thing to do would have been to very politely and lovingly helped her out. Not in a ” know-it-all” sort of way, but in a “Hey, it’s cool, I got your back” way instead.
So yes. Next time, I’ll totally approach her. But hopefully there won’t be a next time.
How about you? What would you do if you saw a woman (or man) wearing their baby in a dangerous way?
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