“Will I know what to do?”
The nerves and anxieties of becoming a mother for the first time are something that every woman goes through. You always want to do what’s best for your child. But because everything is so fresh and new, sometimes you aren’t sure exactly what that is.
I remember when I had my daughter, Harlan, I was so nervous about everything. I was constantly asking others for advice on everything from what baby wash to use to how to get her to sleep through the night. I would go to my pediatricians office with lists of questions to ask him and hung onto his every word when he told me what she needed.
As I look back on those first few months as a new mom, I realize that I had such a lack of confidence in myself as a mother, that I turned to others to tell me how to do it.
That’s going to happen now. Not this time.
Avery turned four months last week which meant it was another monthly check-up at the pediatricians office. During our visit I was prepared to get the recommendation for her to start on solids.
I couldn’t wait to start solids with Harlan. Everyone told me how great it was for them and that it would automatically help them sleep through the night. As a sleep deprived first time mom, I was more excited than she was to get her to start eating. But guess what? It didn’t work. Her sleep went unchanged until eight months when she started sleeping through the night.
I’ve done my research this time and made the personal decision to hold off solids until Avery is six months. I want to exclusively nurse her until then. When my doctor gave be the go-ahead last week to get her started on solid foods, I told her thank you, but that I was going to hold off.
It felt so empowering to be able to tell her no. I would have never been able to do that two years ago. But now, I know that the choices I make for Avery are the right ones. They may not be the right ones for everyone, but they are the right ones for her and our family. I am 100% confident in that.
Of course, as a mother of two, I still don’t have all of the answers. And I often go to others seeking their advice, just as I did the first time. But this time things are a little bit different. I’m not letting others make my parenting choices for me. Ultimately, I make the final decision.
I am a mother that knows what’s best for my girls. I have always known what was best, it’s just taken me a while to finally realize that.
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