It's So Different The Second Time AroundLauren Jimeson
Becoming a mother for the second time is completely different than the first. I was incredibly nervous to welcome my first daughter into the world. Although people tell you about the sleepless nights and how exhausting being a new mom is, until you experience it first hand, those words mean nothing.
My first daughter, Harlan, was an awful sleeper. She would wake every 1-2 hours and had awful acid reflux, which made it harder for her to go back to sleep after the middle of the night feedings. It made my life purely exhausting and incredibly difficult.
As I prepared for the arrival of Avery, when it came to sleep, I anticipated the worst and hoped for the best. That is the one thing I was most nervous about. I had become so adjusted to getting a full night’s sleep, that the mere thought of waking up several times in the middle of the night terrified me.
I lucked out with Avery because she is a great sleeper and usually sleeps in 4 hour stretches at night, which is completely manageable. She even goes right back down after I change her diaper and feed her.
With more sleep at night, I find that I am much more relaxed during the day. While getting around with two is no easy task, I’m not on pins and needles as I was the when I had Harlan. I was always so worried when Harlan cried and was so scared that I wouldn’t be able to console her. With Avery, I feel confident that I will be able to help her when she cries and it doesn’t freak me out when I hear her make the only sound she really knows how to for right now.
When I first became a mom, I read so many books to try to prepare me for motherhood. I wanted to try to do everything by the book because I thought that was what would be best for my daughter. I would get so stressed when things wouldn’t go exactly the way the book told me they would go.
I didn’t read any books during my second pregnancy and don’t plan on reading any either. I don’t claim to be a perfect parent, or to know everything because I’ve done it before. I’ve learned to go by my baby’s cues rather than a book’s cues. This has made for such an easy transition in our household.
The second time around has been much different than I expected, even (dare I say it) much easier than I ever thought it would be!
Was it easier for you the second time around?