My Kids and Their Online IdentityHolly Whitney
When I started blogging in 2005 using your full given name was often shied away from in favor of using a pseudonym or your first name only. At least that was true for me and common in the blogs I was reading at the time.
Things change as time goes on.
Over the years I have watched the comfort level of what information I share shift in myself and have gone from just *pixie* to Holly to using my full name. I’m comfortable with that. What I share is my story.
But a huge part of my story is my children. What level of anonymity do I give them on the internet? How searchable will they be in years to come? Will they want to be?
Not really knowing how to answer those questions with any certainty—and since my children have somewhat unique names—I started using a nickname for my first son when he was born. I call him G-tot most of the time online.
I say most of the time because I will occasionally use their first names—announcing their arrival in the world for example. I also use their real names when write them letters about their growth and development as a baby because someday I intend to share those letters with them when they are older. Other than that I pretty much always refer to him as G-tot. I’m not sure what I will refer to him as once he is out of the tot stage in life.
When I was pregnant with our second son my husband and I asked G-tot what we should name the baby. This was before we knew what we were having and G-tot told us we should name the baby Huggy.
I liked that. We didn’t have any names picked out and wouldn’t have used them before the birth even if we had, so from that point on we started calling the baby Huggy. Or Huggy Baby as a hat tip to Huggy Bear.
Huggy Baby did end up with a name that starts with an H so I will sometimes refer to him as Baby H. But I keep coming back to Huggy Baby.
Somehow it just fits.
Do you use your kid’s real names in your online writing or on social networking sites?