Let The Jealousy BeginLauren Jimeson
I knew it would only be a matter of time before I would have to deal with jealousy between my two girls. I guess my oldest, Harlan, has finally realized that Avery isn’t going anywhere. As much as she loves Avery, she has finally learned over the past three months that she has to share the time with people she loves.
I was beginning to think that she was this super child that welcomed another person into our family without any difficulty. We prepared her as much as possible for Avery, but she is only two years old and we knew it might be somewhat difficult for her. Up until a couple of days ago, she’s welcomed Avery with open arms (and lots of kisses.)
On Wednesday my dad came into the city to meet Avery for the first time. I let Harlan know that he was coming up and she couldn’t have been more excited. They have a great relationship with one another because they spent a lot of time together when we lived near them in Florida.
As soon as my dad got here, Harlan immediately wanted to play. Avery was sleeping at the time, which allowed for my dad to give Harlan his undivided attention. As soon as Avery woke up, my dad wanted to meet her and hold her. Little did I know how much of a hassle it would be for him to hold her.
When I began to hand Avery over, Harlan immediately started throwing a fit. She did not want my dad to have anything to do with Avery. I tried to explain to her that he was meeting Avery for the first time and that she needed some time with him just as Harlan did, but she wasn’t having any of it.
I handed Avery over to my dad anyway, and Harlan acted like it was the end of the world. She started screaming for him to put her down. She yelled at me to take Avery from him then tried to climb on him while he was holding the baby. I had never seen her act like that before. I went over to her and took her away from my dad and into her room to calm down. She told me that she wanted to play with her grandaddy and that Avery wasn’t allowed.
It was so hard explaining to a two year-old that she has to learn to let Avery do things, especially since this is all brand new to her. I’m sure this emotion she was feeling was somewhat new to her as well.
Once Avery had her quality time with my dad, Harlan was immediately back in his lap.
I’m not sure if I handled the situation correctly, but I handled it in the best way I could. I’m experiencing firsts in the world of parenting two girls all the time. It’s a learning process for all of us.
How do you deal with sibling jealousy?
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