Milestones and the Second Child: Do They Happen Later or Do You Just Notice Them Later?Meredith Carroll
The Second Child Syndrome has reared its ugly head in my house. Again.
I was on the phone with my mom last week talking excitedly about how she’s going to see so many changes in Baby Peony during our next visit.
“She must be sitting up by now, right?” my mom asked.
Huh, I though. She should be, right? I mean, she’s now 7-months old. So I scooped her up from my lap, plunked her on the floor and, whaddya know. She sat up. Like she’d been doing it for forever. Except it was the first time. Because I think I forgot to try and get her to do it before then.
At a birthday party with my older daughter for one of her friends over the weekend, I was chatting with a few friends who also have two kids. I asked if their younger kids’ milestones also seemed to, um, happen later.
They laughed. They laughed because the milestones might have been earlier or later. But they didn’t know because it was so hard to keep up with the milestones of the second kid the way you do with the first kid.
With your first kid, you’re all like, “Do this, Baby!” “Say that, Baby!” Everything is recorded on film and video and in the baby book. But with the second child, it’s like, “Hey, when did you start reading?” and “Wow, you’re filling out the college applications already? Didn’t you just ask me to wipe your butt?”
I remember feeling anxious as a first-time mom comparing my baby to other babies and who was crawling, who was babbling coherently, who was drinking from sippy cups instead of bottles. This time around I think I might just be a little too relaxed. I may not be concerned with other babies, but I think I might need to pay a bit more attention to what mine is doing.
Lesson learned. Bring on some more milestones.
Are you also guilty of failing to notice some of your baby’s milestones?
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