With a new mom in my circle of friends and another adding a baby boy to our circle in June, the topic of in-laws and feeding choices has been coming up more often than most of us would like to admit.
When I was pregnant with my middle son I had gotten some unwanted advice and brushed it off which I always suggest new moms do. While it is easier said than done, I think standing your ground also sends a loud and clear message.
Where am I going with this?
This week one of my friends told me all about her mother-in-law or in this case I, monster-in-law would be a little bit more fitting. While insisting her son needs to learn responsibility she told my friend in question she would be giving her son formula.
No question about it, no discussion and after more than one conversation about breastfeeding it was a blatant slap to the face. There was no respect for her choice as a mother, and her own sons choices being a responsible parent.
But what makes others feel like formula feeding would encourage a father to be more responsible?
Is it because of course he would have to get up and feed the baby? Would it be the fact that using formula would make it easier to pass the baby around or include others as babysitters? I don’t see how a feeding choice can teach a parent to be more responsible though.
This is coming from a mother who has breast fed and formula fed. In fact Addison is the only one I have nursed this long. Yes, I will give myself a little pat on the back over that!
But why do outsiders always feel the need to interject their opinion when it is not wanted? Especially when it comes to breastfeeding?
Do they not understand how rude and offensive it is? If someone wants to breastfeed – that is their choice as a parent. Just like what doctor a couple chooses or what kind of diapers they choose to use. It is personal, private and not a community project.
Have you ever run into a situation like this?
How have you handled it?
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