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Mom Charged with Manslaughter After Co-Sleeping with and Killing Baby

By Meredith Carroll |

Co-sleeping

Can the very good ever outweigh the tragically awful?

Co-sleeping is one of those hot button parenting issues: some of those who do it swear by the benefits of the closeness that comes with slumbering and, by extension, bonding with their offspring. Some of those who don’t co-sleep often fear there is the potential for more harm than good when sharing a bed with an infant.

A mom in Minnesota, Toni Annette Medrano, 29, has been charged with two counts of second-degree manslaughter after allegedly rolling over on her infant son in her sleep and killing him, according to The Huffington Post (via the Star-Tribune).

One of the charges, for “culpable negligence creating unreasonable risk,” and the other, for “committing or attempting to commit a violation,” might just have had to do with the fact that she had consumed an entire fifth of vodka before going to sleep.

It was on Nov. 21, 2011, that Medrano came home drunk and fell asleep with her 3-week-old son Adrian, placing him between her and a couch cushion. In the middle of the night she woke up to give him some formula, went back to sleep and woke up three more times, although without leaving the couch, even as her three older kids were getting ready for school.

Not until 10:30 in the morning did she realize Adrian was “cold and purple.” The medical examiner determined the cause of death was “asphyxia due to being laid upon while sleeping with an adult.”

A call to 911 was made by Medrano and her husband, but poor, sweet baby Adrian was pronounced dead regardless, at which time his mom’s blood alcohol content was measured at 0.11. The legal limit for driving in Minnesota is 0.08.

The criminal complaint against Medrano states that her husband told her that, “she should not lie on the couch with the baby as she could fall asleep and suffocate the baby.”

Last fall the American Academy of Pediatrics issued updated guidelines about how sleep-related infant fatalities can be reduced. Among the recommendations is that while babies should sleep in the same room as parents so they may be monitored closely, they should not sleep in the same bed. Co-sleeping increases the risk of suffocation, according to the AAP.

Do stories like this tragic one affect your opinion on co-sleeping?

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Meredith C. Carroll is an award-winning columnist and writer based in Aspen, Colorado. She can be found regularly on the Op-Ed page of The Denver Post. From 2005-2012 her other column, "Meredith Pro Tem" ran in several newspapers, as well as occasionally on The Huffington Post since 2009. Read more about her (or don’t, whatever) at her website. Read bio and latest posts → Read Meredith's latest posts →

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52 thoughts on “Mom Charged with Manslaughter After Co-Sleeping with and Killing Baby

  1. Liz says:

    Wow, seriously? It’s idiots like this who give all co-sleepers a bad name. And I am not one who normally goes around calling people idiots, especially other mothers (who I believe by far and large have their children’s best intentions in mind). How could ANYONE be so ignorant to sleep with a less than one month old baby on the COUCH, completely plastered?
    .
    It is a sad situation, certainly, but when I first saw the title of this post I thought it was going to be a horrific coincidence wherein the mother was being blamed for a death that clearly wasn’t her fault. But judging by the report you provided, I am definitely in support of the charges against her. She has way too many things going against her, including that she has had multiple children and I’m sure has heard many times the dangers of this, her husband specifically warned her, AND she was plastered, yet she just didn’t seem to care. Serious, serious neglect. So sad for the baby and family, but this woman should indeed be brought to justice for knowingly endangering her child in that way.

  2. Meagan says:

    @Liz What does multiple children have to do with it? Not snark, just wondering. Is multiple children a factor in cosleeping safety? Or did you just mean she’s got enough experience to know better?

    I agree this doesn’t have much to do with cosleeping and doubt I would change anyone’s mind. I’m sort of taken aback that anyone would have the energy to get plastered three weeks after giving birth. Those early weeks are a little fuzzy in my memory, but I just don’t think “paaarteeey!” was on the radar.

  3. Anita Kvasnak says:

    Do stories like this tragic one affect your opinion on co-sleeping? Uh, not when it is an idiot alcoholic that they portray in the story! Before I had a baby about 3 months ago, I was very negative on the co-sleeping aspect of parenthood. Now I think that parents should do whatever makes them happy, and co-sleeping makes me happy.

    I don’t want to start waves, but I think that this woman should be charged. Not because she was a mother, or a co-sleeper, but because she was negligent in that she went to sleep with her baby overly intoxicated. She should have had someone else watch the baby until she was sober!

  4. Christine says:

    Ok I am all for safe co-sleeping. Yes it can be done. But there are factors involved that don’t include major alcohol consumption and a couch. If she’d been sober in a bed w/ that cushion I think that poor baby woulda had a chance. can I ask why the dad didn’t take the baby away from the equation? He had to be there to tell her not to. Is he gonna be held responsible for neglect? There are so many factors here that make me angry… Idiocy & a lack of common sense. And why the hades was she drinking w/ a 3week old to begin with?

  5. donna cook says:

    falling asleep drunk on the sofa with your 3 week old is NOT co-sleeping. be more responsible with your articles and titles.

  6. Katy E says:

    Lumping “passed out drunk on the couch with a newborn” with “co-sleeping” is where the problem lies. Safe co-sleeping looks like sober parents with a bedside co-sleeper, not Drunky Brewster on the sofa with a baby on her chest. There needs to be better terminology.

  7. K. Annie says:

    If a mom killed her baby driving drunk, the headline would not be: mom charged with manslaughter for driving with and killing baby. This isn’t about cosleeping, it’s about DRUNK cosleeping.

  8. Eileen says:

    Co-sleeping is dangerous. Period. I hate when people say “oh there are safe ways to co-sleep.”. It’s like saying “there are safe ways to shark dive.”

    I recognize this woman falling asleep on the couch is not the normal co-sleeping and it was negligent, however, aside from this post, co-sleeping is a way for lazy parents to avoid getting out of bed at night. I hold my children constantly, I wear them, I snuggle them, and nurse them, but they sleep in a safe and clear bed of their own. They aren’t missing out on some great bond. They’re asleep for god’s sake. Quit taking your babies to bed!!!!

  9. joanne tocher says:

    Idiots who consume alcohol or drugs and then attempt to bring a child into their bed are totally irresponsible and do not deserve the honour of parenthood. I sleep with my baby girl who is not 16 months and have done since birth, bar the odd night trying to get her to sleep in her basket then cot, I do not drink, smoke or consume drugs, Im even dubious about taking painkillers. Sleeping with the child should not be blamed, the mothers reckless behaviour should!!! There is so much mnore to this story than reported above, Im sure

  10. Merle H. says:

    @ Eileen. Yikes. Do you really think co-sleeping is for lazy parents? I co-slept with my son for the first few weeks because he had trouble staying asleep if he wasn’t sleeping with me. It had nothing to do with me not wanting to get up, because I still got up through the night to change his diaper and I sat up to feed him. It’d be nice if co-sleeping meant not having to get out of bed, but since newborns typically have several wet diapers a night that need attention, it is just not the case. I co-slept because my son needed sleep and the alternative was him crying and me being awake for a few weeks…not a good solution for my family. Different people co-sleep for different reasons, but I don’t think laziness is one of them. And I’m pretty sure there are safe ways to shark dive…probably statistically safer than the drive to the grocery store since that is the leading cause of death in our country for children (not co-sleeping…so you should probably not drive anywhere with your kids…ever).
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  11. Donna says:

    1. This story is not about co-sleeping, but about a drunken irresponsible mother.

  12. Donna says:

    1. This story is not about co-sleeping, but about a drunken irresponsible mother. Worldwide, sharing a family bed is much more likely than not doing so & having an infant in the family bed is much more conducive to breastfeeding. It is actually very rare for deaths to occur in these situations & the ones that do occur are mostly related to SIDS or a pre existing medical condition within the child. That being said, this article is completely inflammatory & is not about a co-sleeping family. Those responsible for the miscategorization should be ashamed.

  13. Hollie says:

    I co-sleep, But I don’t Drink and Co-sleep. Even if I have had a sip my baby goes directly to his crib. I would die if something like this ever happened to my baby. When drinking, sleeping habits are much different from when a person is not sleeping.

  14. Rebecca says:

    Wow talk about misleading. She was drunk and sleeping on a couch. Co-sleeping takes ace in a BED! I have to say I co-sleep with my 9 month old. You have to be sober and very aware of where your child is at all times. Co-sleeping isnt for everyone! If you drink or use drugs put your baby in it’s crib. And i would advise never ever sleeping on a couch with an infant.

  15. Meredith Carroll says:

    @Rebecca — Actually, “bed-sharing” necessarily takes place in bed. “Co-sleeping” is to sleep close to or near your baby (like, in the same room, for example), but not necessarily in the same bed.

  16. daisy says:

    Do any of you realize that many children have passed away while co-sleeping and their parents were NOT drunk. Its a dangerous thing to do Bc parents in those first weeks are so exhausted and may not realize they rolled over while sober. Add alcohol to the mix and its even worse. Babies will bond regardless and that is a silly reason to use for putting a baby next to you. I also agree that co-sleeping is the lazy way out. If that is what you want to do, its a parents choice, but not all of those parents go out of their way to at least purchase a co-sleeping bed.

  17. Crunchy Con Mommy says:

    Daisy, do you have any stats you’d like to share to back that assertion up? I personally have never read any story about a co-sleeping death that involved a breastfeeding mother, who doesn’t smoke, drink alcohol, or take medications, co-sleeping with her husband and their baby (and no one else including older siblings) and on an adult bed free of fluffy pillows and blankets. Every case I’ve read about has mentioned at least one detail that flies in the face of established safe co-sleeping guidelines (from people like Dr. Sears and Dr. James McKenna of Notre Dame’s Mother-Baby Sleep Lab).
    If you know something I don’t, I’d really love to see a link so I can be a better informed mom!

  18. anon says:

    While this case is a bad example, due to maternal intoxication, it brings to light an important issue. Namely, should bed-sharing (or any practice which is recommended against by groups such as AAP) in itself be considered a criminally negligent charge. While the majority of parents will be ok, the same can be said about car seat / belt use. How many parents have been in accidents that would have resulted in serious injury to child without car seat / seat belt? I’m guessing the vast minority. Most of us will not lose a child to SIDS, no matter how they are positioned or sleep. However, any reasonable person would say not using car seats or seat belts is negligent because despite the low incident rate, the potential results are catastrophic. Why is bed-sharing any different? “Safe sleep surface” (taking smoking, alcohol use, etc out) includes firm mattress (infant mattresses are designed much firmer than adult beds), minimal bedding, no pillows, and no crib bumpers. Adults are essentially big, movable crib bumpers, aside from all the other differences in adult beds. It is nearly impossible to replicate ideal infant sleep space in an adult bed. I’m certainly not willing to risk my child’s life on the chance I probably won’t roll over or smother them if I’m really asleep. Do the smart thing, have them sleep in the same room right next to your bed, just not in it!!! You’ll still get plenty of bonding time with appropriate nurturing, feeding and holding.

  19. Adrianne says:

    @Meredith, according to your reply to Rebecca, shouldn’t the title of your article be changed to “bed-sharing” instead of “co-sleeping”? You say in your own response that co-sleeping doesn’t necessarily mean sleeping in the same bed, yet your title makes it sound like co-sleeping was what killed that baby.
    This article would more aptly be titled “Legally Intoxicated Mother Charged with Manslaughter After Rolling Over on and Suffocating Baby”.
    According to your definition in response to Rebecca, I “co-slept” with my daughter for her first three months as she slept in a bassinet in my room. I think that everyone needs to be a little bit more careful about how we word stories like this one. Put the blame where it needs to be (on the drunk mother) without trying to scare people unnecessarily. I for one felt that my baby was a hundred times safer in my bedroom at night than down the hall where I couldn’t hear every movement and be within arms reach should she need me. There ARE safe and effective ways to co-sleep (sleeping in the same room, with baby in arm’s reach) and we should be teaching people about those, not lumping responsible, loving parents in with drunk, negligent mothers.

  20. Jude Strib says:

    I’m petrified of cosleeping.
    I know their are safer ways to do it but I’ve never wanted to take the chance.

    That being said, this is a very sad case.

  21. Dana says:

    This is not about co-sleeping, this is about getting drunk & passing out while caring for a 3-week old. I think in discussions about co-sleeping it is important to note the difference.

  22. Sanriobaby =^.^= says:

    This was a case of drunk co-sleeping and a horrible tragedy that could have easily been avoided. No amount of jail time will be enough punishment in relation to the guilt this mother will carry with her for the rest of her life. I recently had a baby and while I recieved plenty of information about putting my child to sleep in a crib before I left the hospital, I got zero information about how to SAFELY CO-SLEEP with my child and I think that’s part of the issue. While I personally choose not to co sleep per say (baby sleeps in the same room but in her own bed) I know that others want to but don’t know all the rules on how to do it safely. If more hospitals made it a point to inform new parents on the rules of SAFE CO-SLEEPING, this could greatly reduce these tragedies from happening. Was this mom completely careless, yes, and her husband told her so as well. My question is why didn’t he just take the baby from her once she fell asleep.? Why was she drinking so much just 3wks after giving birth? It’s a shame and a sad story all around….

  23. Daniela says:

    Peolpe who are saying that co-sleeping is for lazy people I might as well call you then parents without heart. I co-sleeped with my son because I love him so much I wanted to be close to my baby even when he is asleep. I breastfed too. And it was the best time of my love. You are obviously not capable of understanding that there are other reasons for co-sleeping.

  24. FraBB says:

    I rarely comment on articles but had to on this one. I agree, this is not about co-sleeping, it’s about irresponsibly passing out drunk with your newborn. I’m not sure how anyone could think being intoxicated anywhere near a newborn, let alone sleep with him, is a good idea.

    Personally, I would also inculpate the father/partner … he said she shouldn’t do it, but let her. I know my husband would NEVER let me sleep with the baby if I was drunk… he barely lets me breastfeed half a day after having had 4oz of wine!

    I also think that most people who are against co-sleeping have a lot of misconception about what co-sleeping is. It can absolutely be done safely and the lazy parents are the ones who give co-sleeping a bad rep. If you’re intoxicated, under any kind of medication, or if you can’t adapt your bed and furniture to the needs of co-sleeping, then you shouldn’t do it. But if you are conscientious, it is a very safe and loving way to give your child the love and rest he needs.

    Before passing judgement (not on this story but on co-sleeping in general), I recommend researching it. I am an avid supporter of co-sleeping myself. I did it a few times but couldn’t accommodate my bedroom well enough to support it on a long-term basis so had to put my baby in the bassinet. I do miss the bond that co-sleeping provides though.

  25. Kate Lesny says:

    This woman was NOT cosleeping. She passed out on the couch and killed her baby. It’s a very sad, tragic event that should not have happened, but please stop with the inaccurate headlines already! No wonder people think cosleeping is dangerous, with idiots like this being labeled as ‘cosleepers’

    where was the father? Why didn’t he stop this woman?

    I coslept with my daughter from birth until she was 13 months old. Cosleeping is perfectly safe if it is done properly. And, no, it doesn’t mean you will never get your child out of your bed. People told me that all the time, and it was not true..she sleeps in her own bed, in her own room. Occasionally she climbs into bed with us, but only if she has a bad dream..and I usually end up putting her back in her bed bc she is a restless sleeper.

  26. Kara says:

    Yes! It’s for lazy people. Finally someone said it. Every article I read regarding co-sleeping is ruined at the end with a bunch of mothers supporting it for whatever horrible reason they can come up with. Stop lying to yourselves! I realize that this person in the article was drunk, on a couch. However, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE DRUNK! I am a paramedic and I see it all the time. There is no excuse and no “good reason” for co-sleeping. Ever. An infant should never be in an adult’s bed. You people who think that your awareness and decision making are top notch while you are asleep are fooling yourselves. The average size adult is about 20 times that of a newborn. Isn’t that, alone, enough to make you think twice?????? Not only is this a risk that I will never be cruel enough to take, but can you imagine living the rest of your life knowing that you caused the death of your child? The experts have spoken again and again. You’re equipped with the knowledge. Do your children a favor and put it to use!

  27. Melissa says:

    People are so bothered about co-sleeping being part of title, but isn’t co-sleeping defined as sleeping with your baby near you? Which is what she did. In a totally dangerous and wrong manner, but it was still co-sleeping. People get so defensive about it, but the truth is that not everyone co-sleeps safely with a co-sleeper of some sort attached to or beside the bed. If baby is in bed with any pillows,comforters or adults in the bed, there is a risk. Alcohol or drugs involved or not. It’s great to be near your baby at all times, but unless I slept in a bed with no pillows or covers at all and some kind of barrier around my child, I’d never let them share a bed with me. Not worth the risk, even fully sober.

  28. Jasmine Leilani says:

    This is NOT a case of co-sleeping. This is a sad excuse for a mother who got too drunk to use common sense. I am offended by the corrilation with us True co-sleepers. I started to Co-sleep out of need for easier access to my infant for night feedings. It was in a spacious bed with two Adults who came to become confortable with the situation. We did research & were honest in our comfort level with our choice. It was one of the best things I did for my son & my self.
    NEVER would I, or ANY responsible parent, lay on a COUCH… DRUNK with a newborn!
    I would not even do such a thing with my now toddler aged child.

    Being drunk & irresponsible is the danger here, not Co-sleeping. Maybe you should address intoxication & parenting instead of blaming it on sharing your sleeping space with your child. 

  29. Patty Gatter says:

    Really scarey awful and freightning. I don’t even know what to say…so sad.
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  30. RE says:

    “she had consumed an entire fifth of vodka before going to sleep.”

    That IS NOT what cosleeping families do. There are safe cosleeping/bed sharing guidelines and I follow all of them. Among them: You are not to sleep with your child if you have been drinking, use any narcotics – even if you have smoked a cigarrette (and did not change and not have smoke on you or your breath). Also. Never ever sleep with baby on the couch or anywhere besides your safely set up cosleeping bed. don’t even go to the couch if you are drowsy.

    Do we know I this was a case of cosleeping or did she pass out on the couch with her newborn after getting so drunk?

    The media loves to sabotage cosleeping.

    Also. The picture that goes along with this article is dangerous cosleeping. An infant should never be close to pillows or fluffy bedding especially by its face or laid on them to sleep.

    What a filthy pig. This mom is making a bad name for families who do actually cosleep safely.

    I hate to judge and name call. But I’m outraged.

  31. RE says:

    And I’m unsubscribing and not coming to babble anymore. I mean. How misleading to everyone who reads the Headline of this article. Thanks for misleading everyone.

    Maybe you could provide links to what safe cosleeping is and how to create that environment.

  32. Meredith Carroll says:

    @Re – I’m not sure how calling me a “filthy pig” furthers your argument, but if it makes you feel better about yourself, I guess that makes it OK, right?
    To everyone else:
    This is from Dr. Sears’ website (http://www.askdrsears.com/news/latest-news/dr-sears-addresses-recent-co-sleeping-concerns):
    “Co-sleeping tragedies that have occurred have nearly always been associated with dangerous practices, such as unsafe beds, or parents under the influence of substances that dampen their awareness of baby.”
    Which is basically to say — co-sleeping tragedies happen when people don’t do it safely. But that doesn’t mean it’s not still called co-sleeping. Like, when you don’t drive safely, it doesn’t mean that what you’re doing isn’t still called driving. I would think the most ardent co-sleeping advocates would welcome attention to the unsafe practices of some to further raise awareness of how to do it correctly.

  33. Jessica says:

    Am I the only one who can’t imagine being out drinking three weeks after having a baby – let alone coming home to take care of it?

    And yes, terrible misleading title of an article. Try harder babble….

  34. Camahta says:

    This mother was NOT co-sleeping, she was just a deadbeat drunkard…..the attempt to smear co-sleeping in this article is ridiculously offensive and Im not even a co-sleeper!

  35. Crystal says:

    NO, this doesn’t affect my opinion on cosleeping. Would a story about a mother drunk driving and killing her children affect your opinion about driving with your children in the car??

  36. Ell says:

    Stories like this don’t change my opinion of co-sleeping any more than hearing about someone driving drunk, passing out at the wheel and killing someone in the ensuing crash change my opinion of driving. Way to sensationalize something that people all over the world do safely every night.

  37. Sara says:

    DRUNK co-sleeping? A FIFTH of vodka?
    The only opinion changed is that of your website and irresponsible ‘journalism’.

  38. ConcernedParent says:

    No, my opinion is not swayed. This woman violated the rules of safe co-sleeping. She was drunk, she was on the couch, she formula fed (nursing mothers are biologically more in tune with their babies – scientific fact), and the cause of death was SUFFOCATION, NOT co-sleeping. Co-sleeping is perfectly safe and the biological norm for humans when you use common sense! http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives.html
    http://www.drmomma.org/2009/06/truth-about-co-sleeping-how-stats.html
    http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/breastfeeding-bedsharing-still-useful.html
    http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/how-stats-really-stack-up-cosleeping-is.html

  39. get real says:

    you people that are saying cosleeping is NEVER safe are morons. the chances of a baby dying in its crib and dying while bedsharing with its mother IN A BED who breastfeeds, doesn’t smoke, and hasn’t consumed any alcohol, or drugs is almost identical. get real. you have no idea what the facts are because you are mislead by stupid headlines and articles such as this. MANY countries promote safe cosleeping practices and have a MUCH lower rate of SIDS and infant mortality than the US. look it up. compare their rates vs ours and you will see how absolutely WRONG you are. this woman was wreckless and deserves to be charged, but the real chance of a baby dying is a safe environment is very slim. the benefits far outweigh the risks. do some research that is actually supported by factual evidence, not skewed statistics.

  40. Theresa says:

    This story doesn’t change my view on co-sleeping. I was responsible. Responsible people don’t get plastered and fall asleep with a 3 week old on a couch where there is hardly room for 1 person, let alone 2!!! I never drank while LO was still in my bed. I didn’t drink period as we were breastfeeding (still are at 17 months). She is now sleeping thru the night in her own crib, but she does come into the bed in the morning and nurses. If I have more kids I will probably co-sleep if that is what is most beneficial for us. I agree that this mother deserves to be charged. She should know better and I think the father should have some responsibility as well. Check on your kids! If your wife isn’t in the bed with you, perhaps you should seek her out as well!!!! Maybe that could have saved this childs’ life.

  41. ConcernedParent says:

    It’s funny how we never see stories like, “koala baby suffocated by mother while co-sleeping” or “monkeys died from co-sleeping with mom.” Maybe we should point the finger to what’s really causing these deaths instead: stupidity of irresponsible parents, chemicals/toxins, underlying medical conditions, overmedication of either parent and/or child, lack of breastfeeding (the biological norm for mammals).

  42. whatUneverknew says:

    “co-sleeping” is NOT laying on your baby in a drunken stupor. This article is a perfect example of our ignorant culture inhibiting positive growth by mindlessly fearmongering.

  43. Angie says:

    That is improper cosleeping. Cosleeping is perfectly safe if it is done properly.

    ??What was she thinking, out drinking with a newborn? Lack of proper judgement. That was just a drunk falling asleep on her child.
    You should NEVER sleep with your infant in your sofa,ours is too squishy,especially if you are impaired. That is an invitation to disaster. Mom’s know where there babies are. Drunk moms DO NOT know. If you are drunk or using drugs, even sleeping pills, the safest place for you baby is in a crib.

  44. anon #2 says:

    Co-sleeping is dangerous regardless if you’re drunk or NOT. This is how most babys end up dead- a parent rolling over on there child. No reason for co sleeping what so ever!! The child is sleeping for petes sake. My son would only sleep in his bassinet for 30 mins at a tim.e yet i still NEVER co slept. I rather have my child safe then worry throughout the night .

  45. Julie says:

    This article is NOT about co-sleeping. This is an irresponsible mom getting drunk and rolling on her child. Co-sleeping advocate for it because when done in a firm bed without smoking or alcohol or drugs, that it helps the mother be connected with the child’s every move throughout the night and can easily breastfeed on demand as the child wakes during the night when hungry. Babble should be sure it gets it facts and terminology straight before reporting on such an important subject (and such a sad and tragic incident).

  46. Veronica says:

    I slept with both of my babies until they were about eight months old. It was the best choice for us in terms of bonding, sleeping, and breastfeeding. And no, I didn’t talk to family members or other moms about it because I didn’t want our wonderful experience ruined by judgment and criticism.

    This is one of those “you don’t believe it until you experience it” situations, but when my babies were next to me in the bed, I was hyperaware of them and myself, at all times. I woke up when they did and woke myself up when I needed to roll over. Yes, it took a lot of careful sliding and repositioning (DON’T WAKE HIM UP!), but I did it with no risk to my babies. Even now, when they are sleeping in their own rooms upstairs, I wake up when they do – whether it’s 3 am or 7 am.

    Every family needs to figure out what works best for them. We should be able to discuss our individual choices without feeling the need to judge and criticize people who didn’t make the same ones we did.

    This incident is a tragedy – will anything we say here make the woman and her husband feel worse than they already do?

  47. Heather says:

    This isn’t co-sleeping. This is a mother coming home drunk, passing out on the couch, and smothering her baby. The headline of this article is very misleading.

  48. Eileen says:

    I don’t have anything more to add than what has already been said. This was NOT a co-sleeping situation. This was an IDIOT who got drunk, slept with her poor baby on a couch and was formula feeding – three big no-nos in safe co-sleeping. Irresponsible journalism meant to sensationalize and start a war about AP again since the Time magazine bru-ha-ha has since died down.

  49. Liliana says:

    I agree this is not about co sleeping. This is about an addicted mother killer her child. I breastfeeding and co sleep with a side car crib connection to the bed. We all sleep better. Baby gets needs met. I can not imagine it any other way.

  50. gina says:

    What kind of idiot calls that “co-sleeping”???? If that’s co-sleeping, sticking your kid in a backpack and toting them around all day, is baby wearing….

  51. Renee' says:

    All of you who are talking about how dangerous co-sleeping is have apparently fallen prey to a great but misleading advertising campaign. Safe co-sleeping is not dangerous and many countries and cultures have done it for centuries and somehow they have lived to tell about it. This woman was drunk and on a couch, there was nothing about it that was safe.

  52. clara says:

    “Babies will bond regardless and that is a silly reason to use for putting a baby next to you. I also agree that co-sleeping is the lazy way out.” said Daisy..

    well.. all mammals and most people worldwide sleep next to their babies. Its instinctive, it makes sense and it helps breastfeeding immensely. This was a very sad case of a non-breastfeeding mama making poor decisions and not thinking clearly about her son’s safety. Formula can be very necessary & is still the norm in this country, but breastfeeding moms have different instincts and are usually much more aware of their babies, even in sleep. There was a cluster of cosleeping deaths in Michigan a while back & an investigation found that none of the moms were breastfeeding.

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