I love my children… with all my heart. They are the light of my life and looking in from the outside… I don’t know what I would ever do without them.
But… everyone needs a break, and the transition from two kids, to three kids has been a little bit more trying and difficult than I thought it would be. Especially with a three year old who has decided to manifest behavioral problems we have never encountered before, and a two year old who has picked up temper tantrums with his terrible twos.
I have found myself asking what the hell have I done frequently! We are certainly working into a routine, but there are nights that certainly send me over the edge and make me know I need a night out without my children. STAT!
Which is exactly what I am planning with a couple of my girlfriends. But with a baby that will only be six weeks old this weekend I am getting a ton of rude comments, and flack every where I turn. From other moms, people with no children, and strangers all over the internet and it is making me feel guilty.
As mothers, we make so many sacrifices for our children every day, so I don’t understand how anyone can make a mom feel guilty, or like she is doing something wrong for taking a couple hours to herself and retreating from her home battlefield. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, no matter how old your children are.
As a mother who has battled postpartum depression with both of my older children, I am going above and beyond this time around not only to avoid the bad baby blues, but to actually avoid it before it starts, and thus far I have been doing amazing. No crying, or locking myself in a dark room for days. Nothing!
While people are making me feel guilty, I am going shrug it off. Mothers need to make selfish choices sometimes, it is just a part of life and I am not going to let the stigma that mothers should never leave their children get in my way by any means this time!
And if a night of dancing and a good time is going to help, no one should stand in my way with their rude judgment right?
Do you think mothers are made to feel guilty over their actions too often?