Here is the question posed to Dear Prudie:
Q. Breast-Feeding Mother-in-Law: I had a baby two months ago. About two weeks ago, my husband had to go out of town for a few days, so his mother came to stay with the baby and me. One night I heard the baby crying, and heard my MIL go to him. I thought she was going to bring him to me to nurse so I stayed in bed for a while. When she didn’t bring him, I figured she was just rocking him back to sleep and went to see if she needed anything, like a bottle from the fridge. When I entered the room I saw her holding my son to her breast, letting him suckle. I was (and am) livid. I took my son back to my room and told her she had to leave first thing in the morning. I want to call the police, but my husband thinks that would be taking things too far. We’re at an impasse. Should we call the police? I’m hesitant to let her near my son again.
OMG! Her MIL was BF her DS. Well suckling…. but still, uhm awkward.
I know grandparents typically mean well. I mean, my mom sneaks my baby sweet tea (it makes him happy, so she says). And my in-laws always were encouraging us to “put a little rice in the milk” so the baby will sleep longer. But suckling? That is just a tad too much, make that WAY too much. Did Grandma forget she was Grandma and not a wet nurse? I don’t even know what to say or what I would say if this situation happened to me.
Sasha from CafeMom says it best:
Assuming this is true and not a means of shocking readers, there isn’t a new mom out there who isn’t cringing right now. This is Hand That Rocks the Cradle times a billion, no?
Breastfeeding is such an intensely personal and unique experience meant to be shared only by mother and child. I realize many women believe in cross nursing one another’s babies and that is all fine and good. But that is consensual. I would be pretty furious if someone nursed my baby without my permission and even more furious if they did so with a dry breast.
To the mom who wrote in – the interwebs award your MIL with the most wacky Mother-in-Law trophy.
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