1150 hours is the difference between how much Mom’s and Dad’s parent annually on average. Well, according to a new National parenting survey recently released by VTech.
48% of working mothers say they spend more time each day parenting than they do working at their actual careers, as opposed to 19% of their father counterparts.
Which sounds just about right to me, especially for those of us like myself who work from home while still maintaining full care of the children who are not in school. Which is all three of mine until tomorrow morning when our oldest heads off to school part time. Wow! Where does time go?
When I came across the article, the more I read the more I not only felt sad, but I was certainly alarmed. When talking about me time mothers shared:
Because moms are picking up so much slack at home AND at work, most moms agree “me time” is nearly extinct. Nearly 70% of working moms have an hour or less to themselves each day. And more than 20% report that they have less than fifteen minutes.
Which to me could essentially have long term have dangerous or negative consequences. Why? Because mothers need that time to unwind, process their day, and take care of their own needs. All mothers need this, whether you are super mom, mom of the year, or just your run of the mill mother of one child. On top of that we also deserve this time to ourselves! We do big jobs, especially for those who are working out of the house as well as being mom.
I really enjoyed what the parenting expert on this report had to share as well:
Parenting expert Dr. Michele Borba encourages moms to put away their “supermom” capes and let family and friends pitch in. Borba has teamed up with VTech to offer fresh ideas on ways mom can find time for herself yet still teach, nourish and nurture their children.
It is true! The old saying “it takes a village” is most certainly true. Enlist the help of your family! In our family we have so many family members helping out on a weekly basis. If we didn’t there is no way I would still be sane today with all the appointments, meetings, and activities we have on our calendar not just for ourselves for work, or other projects we have taken on, but for our children as well. As the kids get older, there are more activities and appointments!
In the full article Dr. Borba has some great tips for the moms who take everything on themselves. Which I found not only helpful, but to be a great resources, because while I am not overworked by some, I certainly over do it often!
What do you think?
Do you parent more than your partner?
Do you try and do it all?
Is your house backwards from the finding of this survey?
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