Confession: My husband willingly takes command of nighttime wakings. He has for weeks. He claims that he and Vivi are on the same schedule so when he got up for a midnight pee, Vivi was ready for a nighttime nosh and diaper change, thus their little midnight rendezvous were born, so to speak. I am horrible at falling back asleep, so that he willingly takes over nighttime duties saves both of us a lot of troubles.
Certainly one of the limited benefits of being a formula feeder.
For those first eight weeks I was in charge of all of it, which is why we never left the bed. I HAD to sleep when she slept otherwise I would have been a useless zombie with everything I had to take care of in the night with three part feedings. There were times Cody was able to give her a bottle after I nursed and while I pumped but I always felt bad waking him up. This other kid of ours deserved at least one well rested parent come morning. Besides, he had this job he had to go to and it’s not one that can be performed while half asleep.
Those first few weeks, whether you’re an exclusive breastfeeder, exclusive bottle feeder, a desperate to breastfeeder or somewhere in between are exhausting. Until you figure out your baby and your baby figures out that sleep is well worth their while, it’s every dad and moms responsibility not to eat their mates head praying mantis style.
For us, Cody takes the night wakings and I handle the day to day details of having a baby around. It works for us and I sure am lucky to have a guy around that doesn’t mind taking over at night, especially since he doesn’t get to spend as much time with her during the day, you know, with that job thing.
What’s the arrangement like in your house?