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My Two Year Old Is Taking Advantage of the Breastfeeding Situation

By emily |

It’s taken him over 8 months to figure it out, but my *almost* three-year-old has learned that his mommy is mostly helpless to his antics while breastfeeding his baby brother.

He knows that I can’t easily get up to stop him from doing most anything.

He knows that I can’t yell at him, regardless of what he’s getting into.

He completely understands he can get away with murder… if baby Paul is breastfeeding.

Daily, I’m fighting a losing battle with this little boy. Feeling extremely helpless and defeated, I don’t know what to do.

It’s clear that over the past couple months, my 23-month-old son has gained a significant amount of independence, and he is now having a great time exercising his new found abilities.

For instance, he’s learned that he’s strong enough to open the refrigerator door all by himself, which results in him bringing me a full carton of omggeee fruit punch, from across the living room and up a flight of stairs. He’s also gotten brave enough to help himself to anything he pleases in the pantry. A jar of nutella for snack? Sure!

And just this past week, he’s learned where I keep my phone while it’s charging. On a related note, my phone has been sitting in a rice coffin ever since it met its match with a glass of water.

This kid is naughty and most of his mischief is done while I breastfeed his brother.

Is there a quick fix to this problem? Probably not. Am I frustrated and losing my mind? Oh yeah, baby.

I know this phase will pass, and someday these little boys will be big boys. But for today, I just wanted to rant a bit about how hard it is to raise little kids.

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Emily Elling is a corporate interior designer and freelance writer. She lives in Indianapolis with her husband and four unintentionally hilarious children. Emily also blogs at her personal blog, DesignHER Momma. Read bio and latest posts → Read emily's latest posts →

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12 thoughts on “My Two Year Old Is Taking Advantage of the Breastfeeding Situation

  1. Anna says:

    You can try nursing in a carrier so you’re hands-free?

  2. Liz says:

    Funny post! I see my 19 month old boy doing this when baby #2 comes in six months! :)

  3. Betty says:

    How about trying to involve him while you nurse. Read him a book while you nurse baby Paul, have him help you by bringing you your water jug, nurse on the floor and play blocks/cars at the same time. He may be doing these things for attention rather than just to get into mischief.

  4. Becca says:

    My son is just couple months older and he figured it out from the get-go once I brought my now 4 moth old home. It drove me insane and he knew it. As hard as it was to put my newborn baby down and pause his nursing, my older son needed the guidance and discipline. As soon as my son would start acting out I set my baby down and took care of older brother and it didn’t take long for him to understand that he needed to obey me. I don’t want to be the mom that yells at their kids from the couch but doesn’t do anything about it. The baby will survive…take care of older brother when it’s happening and it won’t take long for him to stop trying to get your attention!

  5. Becca says:

    My son is just couple months older and he figured it out from the get-go once I brought my now 4 moth old home. It drove me insane and he knew it. As hard as it was to put my newborn baby down and pause his nursing, my older son needed the guidance and discipline. As soon as my son would start acting out I set my baby down and took care of older brother and it didn’t take long for him to understand that he needed to obey me. I don’t want to be the mom that yells at their kids from the couch but doesn’t do anything about it. The baby will survive…take care of older brother when it’s happening and it won’t take long for him to stop trying to get your attention.

  6. Becca says:

    My son is just couple months older and he figured it out from the get-go once I brought my now 4 moth old home. It drove me insane and he knew it. As hard as it was to put my newborn baby down and pause his nursing, my older son needed the guidance and discipline. As soon as my son would start acting out I set my baby down and took care of older brother and it didn’t take long for him to understand that he needed to obey me. I don’t want to be the mom that yells at their kids from the couch but doesn’t do anything about it. The baby will survive!

  7. Becca says:

    My son is just couple months older and he figured it out from the get-go once I brought my now 4 moth old home. It drove me insane and he knew it. As hard as it was to put my newborn baby down and pause his nursing, my older son needed the guidance and discipline. As soon as my son would start acting out I set my baby down and took care of older brother and it didn’t take long for him to understand that he needed to obey me. The baby will survive!

  8. Becca says:

    My son is just couple months older and he figured it out from the get-go once I brought my now 4 month old home. It drove me insane and he knew it. As hard as it was to put my newborn baby down and pause his nursing, my older son needed the guidance and discipline. As soon as my son would start acting out I set my baby down and took care of older brother and it didn’t take long for him to understand that he needed to obey me. The baby will survive!

  9. Amy @loveAmyx says:

    On a programme I watched they had an activity bag of toys, books etc that the older child only had access to when Mum was bfding baby so they were ‘special’

  10. koolchicken says:

    At almost three he’s plenty old enough for a time out. He wants attention and that’s understandable, but he needs to learn this behavior is not okay. If you find he’s done something he shouldn’t have while you were nursing, then he needs to go straight to the time out spot and be sure to tell him why he’s there.

    As for avoiding this sort of problem in the first place is it possible you could turn this time into a bonding experience for the three of you? Maybe you could consider having him pick out a book for you to read to him while you nurse? Maybe do it on the couch so he can snuggle in too and you can lay the book down or he can hold it since you’ll only have at most one free hand.

  11. Beth says:

    My twin 6 year old boys are doing the same thing. Only I think they can do a lot more damage at 6, especially to each other.

  12. charleen says:

    May I suggest you get yourself a baby sling (if you don’t already own one) and learn to nurse the baby in it. This will allow you to have your hands-free as well a allow for greater mobility while nursing. You will then be able to follow after your two year-old and prevent him from getting into mischief when your nursing the baby. It also can be very useful when you want to do other things while nursing such cleaning, serving dinner, washing dishes, or any other task you may wish to do but need your hands free to do. Once you learn to nurse in a sling, you could also find activities to do with your 2 y.o. that will keep him occupied while you nurse. A baby sling was invaluable in helping me get through the early months of nursing since I could do other things while I nursed and didn’t feel so tied down.

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