Parenting: The Fantasy vs. The RealityLauren Hartmann
Seeing all the idyllic photos your friends post of their day-to-day lives with their little ones (early evening family strolls, afternoon gelato dates and well thought-out sensory table play…) can be enough to make any parent feel like a failure. You may wonder, “Why do all these other parents have it together, while I feel like I’m ready to snap?”
Well, the answer is: your friends don’t have it all together. They go on Facebook and feel like totally crappy parents sometimes too. They’re only posting the photos of little Emerson smiling sweetly on a picnic blanket in the park, but what you’re not seeing are the photos of little Emerson having a diaper explosion all over that same picnic blanket 20 minutes later.
Social media has given us a distorted view of what parenting really looks like. We are only seeing the good parts of people’s lives, not the low moments.
We’ve built up this sort of parenting fantasy in our minds, but today I wanted to give you a dose of the reality behind those sweet photos your seeing in your Instagram feed from my own Instagram photos…
Fantasy: Awwww! A sweet sleeping baby 1 of 9Reality: Said "sweet, sleeping baby" spent the past 45 minutes crying and finally got so tired she conked out.
Fantasy: Fun! Meal time with baby! 2 of 9Reality: She threw this dish of food on the ground approximately 38 seconds after the photo was taken.
Fantasy: A magical mommy daughter lunch date 3 of 9Reality: This was right before she spilled a gigantic glass of ice water all over my pants.
Fantasy: Adorable baby snuggles 4 of 9Reality: She was really only letting me snuggle her because she was intently staring at our dog out the window behind me.
Fantasy: Post bath time giggles 5 of 9Reality: Immediately after I snapped this photo she peed through this towel and down my leg.
Fantasy: An idyllic family day at the beach 6 of 9Reality: I got a sunburn on my neck and Fern was a fussy grump all day long.
Fantasy: A lovely little impish baby full of personality 7 of 9Reality: She had two diaper explosions while we were out running errands and I ran out of extra clothes.
Fantasy: A mother daughter moment while reading a book 8 of 9Reality: Most of our "reading time" was actually spent with Fern pulling the books out of my hands to put them into her mouth.
Fantasy: Baby’s are so cute when sleep! 9 of 9Reality: This was a makeshift bed on the floor so I could lay down by Fern after she refused to sleep and had already woken up three times in the previous six hours.
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