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Six Weeks Postpartum, and Cleared to *ahem*, "Do It".

By emily |

Last week I went to the lady doctor for my six week postpartum checkup. Of course I took Paul with me, because naturally I wanted to shamelessly show him off to all the staff and my doctor who delivered him.
At the appointment, we discussed all the typical and standard post-delivery kind of concerns.

Am I getting any sleep? How’s my energy level doing? Are the other kids adjusting well? Do I feel postpartum depression creeping in? Stuff like that.

I also got a cervical exam, and got the green light to go ahead and start having sex again if I want.

Sex again. If I’m ready.

But am I ready?

While my husband is probably thrilled to hear how my special parts have been put back together nicely, over the past six weeks, I’m not so sure I’m quite ready to hop back in the sack quite yet. I’m obviously excited to have healed up, but let’s face it, birthing a baby vaginally didn’t exactly feel like pushing out cotton balls, and it was only six weeks ago.

In my previous pregnancies, I also go the the go ahead at the six week checkup, but I think my husband and I waited until around the 8 week mark to get things going again.

I have to be honest, I’m a modest gal, and posting about sex/love life makes me incredibly uncomfortable. But I must blog about it, because I’m curious how other new moms feel about having sex after birth, and how long you and your partner waited before hopping back in the sack.

Would you be brave and leave a comment? How long did you wait postpartum to resume “business as usual” in the bedroom?

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17 thoughts on “Six Weeks Postpartum, and Cleared to *ahem*, "Do It".

  1. Kortney says:

    My doctor cleared m at 4 weeks and oddly enough I was more than ready to get things going again between the husband and I. He was obviously more than thrilled but also surprised since during my pregnancy I did not like sex. Crazy how everyone’s body is different.

  2. Meagan says:

    7 months. Combination of having baby in our room and lots of lingering pain. Waaaay way too long.

  3. Rose says:

    The spouse and I first “re-acquainted” ourselves with each other at 8 weeks. It was back to feeling normal again at about 4 months. 8 months later, I still have no libido, but I hear that’s normal.

  4. Courtnay says:

    with my first it was 4 days shy of a month (our wedding anniv) with my second it was 17 days. everything was good both times

  5. Erica says:

    I got the okay at 6 weeks but I think we waited till around 10 and it was painful the first couple times. I have ZERO desire sadly (I guess mostly because I’m breastfeeding) and can count on one hand how many times we’ve done “it” and my baby is four months old now. Im ashamed to say that.

  6. Natasha says:

    Topical estrogen cream is a wonderful thing. Since apparently breastfeeding can put your body into an almost menopausal state, it can interfere with your natural lubrication. You need a perscription for the cream, but it makes things a lot easier, especially if you have scar tissue too! Just throwing that out there, since I didn’t find out about it until after my 6-week appointment and I’m sure there are lots of women who just think it’s normal for it to be painful.

  7. brianna says:

    Waited 8 weeks, but it hurt too bad. Tried again at 10 weeks, little better. Sadly, my baby is 7 months old & hubby & I only “do it” once every 2 weeks or so. Breastfeeding has all but killed my sex drive.

  8. Juju @ Tales of says:

    10 weeks for me too. I wasn’t really feeling sexy at 6 weeks.

  9. Kerry says:

    6 weeks and 2 or 3 days…I was nervous and scared…. But it went a lot better than I expected…<3

  10. Flor says:

    I Got the ok at 6 weeks but nothing yet is been 8 weeks already planning a romantic night soon cause I’m more than ready lol

  11. JQ says:

    I had a c-section and I honestly cannot remember how long we waited – that was 3 years ago – time flies! I would guess it was several months because we had my mom in town for a couple weeks, then we had my dad and my step-mom in town, then we had the great-grandma in town. I know I got pregnant a month or two before the first birthday (but unfortunately had a miscarriage) so it was at least less than a year – haha!

  12. Rachel says:


    I did not birth my babies naturally, I had both of mine by c-section. I’m sure my response would be quite different if I had birthed naturally.

    At both my six wk check up the dr said that we could resume natural activities whenever we were ready.

    With my first we waited until I was 7 weeks past. With our daughter my husband didn’t wait so long. :) I think I was 5 or 6 weeks past when we resumed activities. It may have been 4 weeks. We didn’t really wait for the drs go ahead.

  13. Rylee Murray says:

    Shockly, I was really looking forward to alone time with my husband. The last few months of pregnancy there wasn’t any. But I was nervous and scared, 2 1/2 hours of pushing did NO favors for my lady parts….lots of stitches. I was cleared at 7 weeks and literally we got back on the horse a few days later. Luckily my husband made me feel at ease; extremely gentle — going slow was key. Honestly, it was so much better than I could imagined. I’m still sensitive, my baby is 14 weeks old, and probably will be for a bit longer. It’s nice to have that back; I missed him in that way.

  14. Sara says:

    We waited til about 8 weeks, mostly because we were nervous if it would feel the same. It was a bit painful at first, but then it was even better than before! However, I am breastfeeding and I have zero sex drive, so our “activities” only happen about once a month. Co-sleeping might have something to do with it too, LOL.

  15. guajolote says:

    We started one day shy of 6 weeks. Not wildly successful but we didn’t know what to expect, and both accepted each other with good humor. And some wincing/grit teeth on my part.

  16. Ruth says:

    I also had two c-sections so I can’t say I know how you gals feel.

    My husband and I had sex just three weeks after my first son was born. I don’t remember exactly, but i think it was a month after my second. He bugged me a lot for it but I also was ready. My sex drive was good for a little while, but it didn’t take long before the late nights drained me of it!

  17. chelsey says:

    I remember when 6 weeks rolled around and definitely not feeling ready at all. i was pretty nervous about it. I think we tried around 9 weeks but had to stop almost immediately because it felt like I was birthing a baby again. I cried. Called my midwife and she said it was due to scar tissue and just to give it time. We didn’t try again till almost 5 months after the birth, and still a lot of pain but I had to suck it up and once I got over that, things were okay. I read about a lot of moms who didn’t have sex until the baby was a year old! Don’t rush it if you don’t feel ready.

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