Solidarity In Motherhood

Photos from a recent play date with some mommy friends and their little ones

One of my favorite things about motherhood is the bond that I’m able to share with other moms. I remember people talking about motherhood like it was some part of amazing club, but I didn’t really get it, but now I do.

In fact, I feel incredibly thankful to be a part of this club, because without it I don’t know how I would’ve been able to get through these first two months with Fern.

Family, friends and even strangers who’ve walked through this journey of motherhood have all come alongside me with love, antecdotes and encouragement.

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First and foremost there was my mom. Ever since I got pregnant, I’ve gained a whole new respect and understanding for her. She went through all of these same challenges with me and it’s made me understand her love for me even more. It’s been great going to her for advice or even just to vent.

Then there’s the moms in my breastfeeding support group. There’s something so intimate and wonderful about sitting around with other nursing moms and sharing struggles, triumphs and sometimes even tears surrounding breast feeding. Without these women to encourage me to keep on and assuring me that things would eventually get better with nursing, I would’ve given up long ago.

My friends who were moms before me have been great too. It’s so refreshing to just get together and talk about what’s going on with us and our kids and it’s nice being able to ask them all the awkward/embarrassing questions without worrying about feeling judged.

And finally, there’s been the encouragement from strangers. Yes there are plenty of people who bestow unwanted advice, but for every one of those people there are a handful more who are so sweet and encouraging. I love seeing little, old grandmas eyes light up when they see me with Fern and stop to say hi and reminisce about their early days as a new mom.

There’s so much beauty in the solidarity of knowing that somewhere there’s a mom who’s experienced just what you’re going through and they survived. It’s what keeps me encouraged on a daily basis and thankful that I’m part of the “club” now.


•Lauren Hartmann is the founder of The Little Things We Do, a blog about life and adventures in Portland Oregon. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook, or catch up on all of her posts here on Babble.

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