It was the first time I didn’t check email until the morning. It was the first time, being home, in over a year that my husband put the kids to bed. It was the first time in years that we popped a bottle of champagne even though we weren’t celebrating anything. When I say we, I mean my friend Karen and I. A few weeks ago I was having a rough day and Karen decided to offer up her time one evening to bring over a sundae bar for everyone. I couldn’t pass up her offer. She felt like it would give me a good break and once the little ones went to bed, she would whip us up some fabulous Bellini Martinis. Well, let me tell you – it was some kind of fabulous.
The girls were so excited as she started setting up the ice cream bar. They were completely goggling over all of the toppings and Grayson was coo-ing from across the room trying to get in on all the action. They thought it was almost better then Christmas morning. They had just finished dinner and they couldn’t wait to dive in to ice cream and spend time with my friend. Poor girl almost couldn’t catch a break between the 5 of them dying for solo attention. Kennadi brought over a pile of 10 books for her to read while McKenzie was stalling forever for bedtime.
Having cocktails on a Monday evening with a good friend reminded me how important it is to take a break, let go, and roll down your sleeves. It’s okay to not check your email, or text someone back right away. It was so nice to sit with a friend and actually talk face-to-face until 1 AM instead of texting. It felt great to take the “night off” and enjoy the downtime while I watched the girls dance to Katy Perry with Karen and snuggle during story time. I didn’t have them pulling on me all night long – “Mom, Mom, Mom!” I relaxed and I enjoyed the time together. I wasn’t stressed for a second and it felt amazing. I really could disconnect for the evening and it was much needed. (Minus the instagram-ing of the cocktails of course.) It was good food for the soul and made my heart feel so happy at the end of the day.
It’s okay to just stop. Get out of your comfort zone. Not be on schedule. Let your kids stay up a little late on a school night when you have company. It made me realize that I should probably put my phone down more in the evening and have a glass a wine just because. Enjoy the little moments we have in life instead of worrying over the dishes in the sink or the sprinkles on the floor. Just let it be.
Sometimes momma just needs a break, a drink and good conversation with a friend and family time to reconnect.
Cheers to that!