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10 Pieces of Parenting Advice That No One Wants to Hear

By Katie |

Last week I wrote about the 10 pieces of parenting advice I’m tired of hearing, and it turns out, I am not alone. Based on the comments and emails I’ve gotten since then, it seems that the unsolicited, even rude, parenting advice isn’t just coming my way, but that it might be a bit of an epidemic. So I decided that since I’m not alone in this misery that it might be interesting to see what advice other parents were tired of hearing. I know that since my child is only 8 months old, I’ve only just begun experiencing this delightful phenomenon, and well, now I know what to expect.

I asked other Babble writers what their least favorite piece of parenting advice was, and what follows is a harrowing look into my future, and perhaps a cautionary tale for those of you who like to dish out the unsolicited advice…

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Common Bad Parenting Advice

"Nap when they nap."

"Hel-lo, reality! There was no laundry fairy to clean all the onesies or a cooking genie to get dinner on the table! That said, I was all for otherwise making life easier. I gladly accepted help from relatives, split night-time shifts with my husband and either delayed or ditched niceties like thank-you cards for gifts."
— Ellen Seidman, Babble Blogger, Love That Max

What are YOUR least favorite pieces of parenting advice?

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7 thoughts on “10 Pieces of Parenting Advice That No One Wants to Hear

  1. Ashley says:

    What’s wrong with saying to sleep when the baby sleeps?
    When you have a newborn, you NEED to sleep when the baby sleeps. If you don’t then when will you sleep? What else is SO important that it can’t wait? You’re sanity is worth having dirty dishes.

    Also, there’s nothing wrong with cloth diapers. I know some people are overly crazy about them, but that doesn’t mean you should be turned off from them. I thought it was weird and gross until I spent my entire pregnancy researching it. We love it and think it’s SO much better/easier than using disposables. Plus it’s a TON cheaper.

    1. katie says:

      Ashley, I think you missed the point. It’s not that (some of) these aren’t actually good advice, it’s that they’re not things that we want to hear. When you have a newborn and also need to eat and do laundry so that you have a clean shirt (especially immediately post baby when about 4 articles of clothing fit), hearing that you should sleep when the baby sleeps is frustrating. If you sleep whenever the baby sleeps, you won’t be able to do anything but spend every waking moment with a baby. When I tried the sleep when the baby sleeps, it meant losing all of my alone time, and I think that for some people, that too, is important.

      And nooooo one said that there was anything wrong with cloth diapers, it’s telling someone else to use them that’s the problem.

    2. I know women who could nap when their baby napped. I was not one of them. By the time I finished changing her, nursing her, changing her again, and pumping, I had maybe 15 minutes before the cycle would start again.

      It’s not annoying advice because it’s bad advice, it’s annoying because for a lot of us it just isn’t possible, and the person saying it doesn’t seem to be considering that maybe their circumstances and ours are different.

  2. I think every parent clearly has his / her own preferences, and that’s why I say parenting methodologies is not one size fits all… so what one person says may not work for another. You as a parent needs to decide what works for you because you parent with your heart and that’s all that matters. There’s no right or wrong, so sometimes even blanket statements like “what no parent wants to hear” can cause some strong reactions. I say let’s empower one another to find what’s best for each parent, and for parents on the receiving end, to try and remember that outsiders may say things that you may not agree with but they have good intentions… just trying to help – though sometimes their delivery methods is like them putting a foot in their mouths ;)

  3. P.S. Wanted to clarify that I didn’t mean anyone here is putting their foot in their mouths! Interesting post and comment thread for sure. Thanks for sharing everyone.

  4. cheylene says:

    I can’t believe someone told you to lock up a not even 2 year old child thats nuts!

  5. Trish says:

    I can relate to every single one of these. Love it. Thank You for sharing this. It made me laugh. Especially the one about the haircut. My son is a little over 2 and he FINALLY got some hair after he turned 1 and now everyone says he needs a haircut. WHATEVER. I love his curls and I will cut his hair when I am ready. Its not like it is obstructing his vision. :-)

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