The Accidental Baby-WearerRebekah Kuschmider
I’m no attachment parent. In fact, I don’t adhere to any parenting philosophy or school of thought. My style of raising kids can best be described as “flying by the seat of my pants”. But despite my lack of allegiance to Dr. Sears and his teachings, I am a baby wearing mommy who owns a Bjorn, a Moby, two Ergos, and a truly gorgeous silk shantung ring sling that is almost too pretty to hold a person who poops up her back.
I wear my baby a lot not because I feel strongly that it does something critical for our relationship or her development. Rather I do it for the reason that women over the epochs have worn their babies: it’s eminently practical. Having my little girl strapped to my chest lets me soothe her when she’s fussy, move her easily from place to place when we’re out, and it keeps my hands free for all-important tasks like opening juice boxes or helping get shoes on the right feet for my 4 year old. I also like having her upright for chunks of the day so she’s less at risk for getting a flat spot on the back of her head. Not to mention, it’s nice and snuggly to have a baby close to me.
Oh, and if I have the baby in a carrier, no one thinks I’m nuts when I mutter to myself in the store. It just looks like I’m interacting with my baby instead of wondering aloud why there’s no salami left in the deli section.
At times, I do feel like I’m making an unintentional statement when I wear my daughter out and about. Walking through Whole Foods with a baby in a Moby just seems to make a host of declarations about my family life that…well…aren’t true. I’m not that mom. I vaccinate on the CDC schedule, my son eats refined sugar, and the only other person in my bed is my husband. All I’m looking to do by wearing the baby is to get the tasks of daily living accomplished with as little crying as possible. The carriers help me accomplish that. It’s not political. It’s practical.
Do you wear your baby? What are you reasons?
Photo credit: Ergo Baby
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