I’m a little bit OCD and appreciate having things “just so,” which isn’t always something definable, but I know it when I see it. This often lead to ridiculous expectations of those around me, particularly my husband, and he often ends up being the target of most of my nagging. (“What?! You put the slotted spoon in the second drawer? Obviously it’s supposed to go in the third drawer!”) It’s like this giant, terrible “Nag Monster” comes and takes over my body.
But, I’ve decided that this is something I’m going to work on, because even though part of this is just a part of my personality, a lot of it is just my attitude that needs to change. This Bible verse, “Do everything in love” is one that I am making a focus for myself this year and it’s a pretty good focus even if you’re not a person of faith – because who couldn’t use a little more love in their life?
When I put myself in the mindset of being loving toward my family and those around me, I chill out and all the little annoyances just seem to fade away. Being a wife and a mom is an overwhelming job some days I can get a little bitter about it, but I am working on replacing these seeds of bitterness with seeds of love.
I don’t want my daughter to grow up with memories of a nagging mother who was more worried about muddy footprints in the kitchen than spending quality time together. I don’t want my husband to dread coming home to a nagging wife. I want to refocus on the things that are really important and focus on showing my family love with my actions. I won’t always be perfect (far from it I’m sure), but it’s a good goal for me right now during this stage of life.
So here’s to replacing that terrible “Nag Monster” with a “Love Monster” instead!
Lauren Hartmann is the founder of The Little Things We Do, a blog about life and adventures in Portland Oregon. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram or catch up on all of her posts here on Babble.
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