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Um… This Ain't My First Rodeo!

By Danielle |

All those children… yes, they are all mine.  We have three, although you would never think that by not only our ages, but also  looking at us. Us being myself, and my husband.

It all started in the hospital I guess, but I am sure I could go back during my pregnancy and fine dozens of instances of unsolicited advice, and questions about my first baby, although she is my third.

Until I started to really get to know the hospital staff during my recovery, everyone asked me “Is she your first?” First what?  First baby?  First girl?   What?

Nope, she is not my first, she just so happens to be the third child in our family, well and the last. Although she is the first girl.

But despite that it hasn’t stopped the unsolicited parenting advice, and tips. I should do this, or not do that… I should only feed her like this or not take her out of the house until she is three months old.  You would think after a flock of kids I would have all the tips of parenting down.  Well, I do… but apparently no one got that memo!

I try to be as polite as I can when it comes to people making comments about my parenting, or offering up their unwanted advice, but sometimes it just is nothing more than annoying.

How do you deal with unsolicited parenting advice and comments?

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6 thoughts on “Um… This Ain't My First Rodeo!

  1. Autoclave239 says:

    Ugh, I seem to get this from in laws more than anyone else. I haven’t been very hungry and having been eating a lot during this pregnancy, and my MIL can’t seem to shut up about it. “I’m so WORRIED about you, I don’t like that you aren’t eating.” Well, thanks, but my doctor doesn’t think there is a problem, so why don’t we just leave it between him and me? Basically, that’s my response to anything where anyone tells me I’m doing something wrong/what I should be doing. “My doctor said X, but thanks for thinking of me.” or something similar.

  2. Kim says:

    “Well bless your heart. I’ll keep that in mind.” I learned that from a southern blogger I read. She sad it basically translates to “Go f*ck yourself.”

  3. Debby says:

    I cannot stand unsolicited advice! It makes me want to scream when a random stranger tells you what they think you should be doing as a parent. I thought I was past it, since my first is no longer a baby, and that is when most of the advice seemed to come about. Then, I recently received unsolicited advice from a relative on how to throw a child’s birthday party…after sending out the invite for my girl’s 3 year party. Apparently I was not doing it the “correct” way. I wanted to strangle her.

  4. Brittany says:

    LOL… thats so funny… I felt like I was reading my experience in the hospital wiht my 3rd…. I’m 26 but look very yound (maybe b/c I’m short) and i get it a lot too… There are times that I get “advice” and I take it as just that but other times its “I KNOW… thanks”… I sometimes I just can’t deal with the advice b/c its usually when my 2yr old is being a snot in the grocery store…

  5. Doreen Lombardo says:

    I STILL get unwanted advice and mine are grown so get used to it. LOL Most often I just nod my head and that’s that. Once in a while something someone says interests me, but generally, if I have a question I will ask, otherwise, I’m not interested.

    When my son was little, before my daughter was born, we were at the house of a couple we knew. It was warm weather but getting dark. All the older people there, people my parent’s age, kept insisting I put a jacket on my son. Only thing was, he was not cold. The kid was running around and was always hot anyway. I was not one to insist he wear a jacket. He was intelligent enough to ask for his jacket if he got cold. They really started to get on my nerves. I KNOW my own kid. They were cold so they were insisting my kid was cold. Grrrr.

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