I’m not buying my 3-month-old daughter anything for the holidays. And anyone in my family who asks what to get her is being told to get her more of the same.
I’m not Scrooge-y. And it’s not that I think she’s just 3 months old and doesn’t need anything (although she is and she doesn’t).
But I’d like to try and start a precedent.
And there’s no time like the present to avoid buying presents.
There was nothing I loved more as a kid than receiving Hanukkah gifts (except for receiving birthday gifts). My mom is a thoughtful and creative shopper and always bought me what I never knew I wanted so much that it made me leap for joy.
But I have a friend who buys her son nothing for Hanukkah. Instead, for each of the 8 nights of the holiday she asks him to pick a worthy cause that means something to him and they make a donation in his name. And throughout the rest of the year she buys him stuff that he wants within reason and as she deems appropriate. I really like that idea.
We once tried not buying my older daughter gifts. She gets inundated on her birthday and during the holidays with gifts from everyone under the sun. So instead of getting her stuff on those occasions, I indulge her at other times during the year, guilt-free. That is, until she has been letting us know in no uncertain terms what she will be receiving this year for Hanukkah.
So, new baby, fresh start. We’re not buying our new baby anything for Hanukkah and we’re going to redouble our efforts to try and teach our kids about giving back, while also ensuring they feel loved emotionally (and with some material possessions) throughout the year.
I can’t imagine the results will always be perfect and appreciated roundly, but we’re going to give it a try anyway.
Would you ever deny your kids gifts during the December holidays?