“When are you having another baby?”
“Are you trying for the next one yet?”
“Awww, little baby Susie wants a sibling!”
Those are some of the most popular questions, and statements after women have a baby. Everyone wants to know if you are done, or when you are making plans to expand your family. Heck, I even must admit I am that lady sometimes. Especially with my best friend whose daughter turns two this October. Yes Kaitlyn! YOU!
My kids outnumber hers big time, and I am ready for another baby around since Addison is no longer in the newborn stage anymore.
I started thinking about this the other day though… and I came to the conclusion that most of those who say they are waiting for x, y, or z for another baby will probably never meet all the goals they have set.
Over the years I have heard a ton of our friends use the when we are ready or when we are more stable card… and for the most part neither happen, and babies just come on their own. Heck… If my husband and I waited till we were really ready for parenthood… we still wouldn’t have any kids!
I don’t think there is really much you can prepare for when it comes to having kids… Sure you can get all the gear and take all the classes… You can have a hefty savings account and great investments. Buy a house big enough to fit the Duggars… but there is very little you can do to really prepare yourself… if you know what I mean.
Not much can prepare you for a baby with colic, or one that will have their days and nights mixed up.
Nothing is going to prepare you for not screwing your child up for life.
There are no books that will give you step by step directions for your bundle of joy.
Which is why in the end, there is no such thing as a perfect parent. We all do our best.
In the end, there really is no right timing for a second, third, sixth, or whatever number you are on.
You just go for it whenever, and hold on for the ride…
How did you know when you were ready for another baby?