At nine months postpartum, I can look back and say that motherhood has changed me far beyond what I ever could have imagined. I have mellowed. I’ve let go of so much control. I swear the size of my heart has quadrupled. But one less endearing change? I have become the queen of excuses.
I didn’t have time. He didn’t take a nap. He hates his stroller. I need the calories for breastfeeding. And one of my personal favorites – I just had a baby!
But…did I? I don’t think Webster includes a time limit next to the definition of “just” but I’m guessing I exceeded it long ago.
The thing is, having a baby IS totally and completely life changing. That’s not to say you can’t get (somewhat) back to your old life eventually, but it definitely doesn’t go back to the way things were. And when I find myself presented with parenting challenges, I often find myself babbling this excuse as if I haven’t had nine months to get my act together.
It’s not like I would show up at labor and delivery, contracting and ready to go, and marvel – but I just got a positive pregnancy test! – right? Right. I think at nine months the novelty of newness has more than tarnished.
At the same time, I’m surprised that there are times when I still feel like a new mom, floundering and flailing to survive the most challenging days. And there are little postpartum reminders – like my hair still falling out and my smooshy stomach – that make me feel like delivery day really wasn’t all that long ago.
What do you guys think? What is the expiration date on saying you “just” had a baby?
I’m guessing if the baby you “just” had has started walking, you’re out of excuses… Oops!
Read more from Emily on her personal blog Daily Garnish, where she creates healthy vegetarian recipes, recaps her latest running adventures, and chronicles life as a new mom to her son and two crazy dogs. You can follow along on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest too!