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You’ve Got Your Hands Full!

And More Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins

By Ronnie Koenig |

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    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins Being pregnant with twins as a 5-foot tall woman gave me some insight into what it must feel like to be a sideshow attraction. I literally could not leave my home without enduring sidelong glances, full-on stares, and people loudly informing me that I was having twins.

    Now that the twins are here, the running street commentary has continued, except now its (thankfully) directed to my adorable son and daughter instead of at my belly. Here are the sometimes sweet, but mostly clueless, things people say to me

  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    Youve got your hands full!

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins This comment is usually accompanied by a pitying glance, a sharp intake of breath, and/or an eye roll. Its true that my twins often keep both my hands full, but dont feel sorry for me. In the past four months, my husband and I have kept our jobs, cleaned our house, cooked real meals, eaten in restaurants, hosted dinner parties, and we almost always wear pants with zippers, not drawstrings. Now will you please get the door for me?

    Is You have your hands full! heinous or harmless?

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    Do twins run in your family?

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins Hmm a veiled attempt to figure out whether or not I had IVF (I did), or genuine curiosity about the miracle of twins? My typical response: Yes, but these two came from a laboratory.

    Its not your imagination — twins are everywhere

  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    Did you know you were having twins, or were you surprised?

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins Oh, come on. Do I look like one of those women on I Didnt Know I Was Pregnant?

    Well, you see, I went to the bathroom and felt something real big coming out. At first I thought it was that I had Chipotle for dinner, but then I saw a head and then another head!

    Yes, we knew it was twins. Its called a sonogram, and we had many of them.

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  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    You won the lottery!

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins While I do consider myself lucky that Ill know the joys of parenting both a son and a daughter, theres still something a little distasteful about likening my birth experience to rubbing a nickel across a Gold Rush Double-Down scratch-off ticket.

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  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    Are they identical?

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins This one confuses me, especially when the asker knows that they are looking at a boy and a girl. Yes, I often reply. They are identical, except for that one has a penis and the other a vagina." (Twins of different sexes are fraternal.)

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  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    You're done!

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins What am I, a steak thats been on the grill too long? Are you part of a population-control secret operative?

    How do you know when your familys complete?

  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    Did you have a C-section?

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins Yep, it was a C-section. No, Im not breastfeeding, though moms of twins are able to. Thanks for your interest in my lady parts! Do you mind if I ask you a few questions about your butthole now?

    Im not sorry I didnt have a natural birth

  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    You are so blessed! God bless them!

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins Its totally cool if you think that the baby Jesus or an angel or a man in the sky smiled down on us and gave us our children. But if we were to thank someone, it would be British physiologist Robert G. Edwards who won the Nobel Prize in Medicine for developing in vitro fertilization.

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  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    I once saw a woman with triplets

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins Are you telling me this because you think it will make me feel better that I only have two kids to contend with, or do you think that moms of multiples all know each other and belong to some special club with a secret handshake? (Nope its our kids who have the secret language and superpowers, not us.)

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  • You've Got Your Hands Full!

    Wow, you look great!

    Sh*t People Say to Moms of Twins Its not the compliment I contest I welcome any form of flattery. Its the shock on peoples faces when they say it, as if what they really expect a new mom of twins to look like is a Biggest Loser contestant after an uphill, half-mile hike.

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About the Author

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Ronnie Koenig is a freelance writer based in Brooklyn, NY. She was the editor-in-chief of Playgirl magazine and writes for Cosmo, Redbook, Penthouse, American Way and others. She and her husband are expecting twins in September! Visit her at www.ronniekoenig.com.

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59 thoughts on “You’ve Got Your Hands Full!

  1. betsybetsy says:

    as a mom to twin boys (conceived via ivf), i have to say that i really don’t object to any of these comments. i didn’t realize it until i had twins myself, but there’s a weird — almost freakish — fascination with twins, and i’ve come to accept that. admittedly, i don’t appreciate the “who has it harder” contest at the playground (moms of multiples versus moms of kids of varying ages) but i mostly think it’s sweet that people take such an interest in my children. as for the invasive questions about whether or not i had fertility treatments, i’ve also come to accept that it’s par for the course.

  2. Giselle says:

    Oh come on, you may have had help to conceive twins, but you are very blessed to have two healthy, beautiful children. Is that so bad to hear or think?

  3. Kiki says:

    Perhaps you should consider handing people a card with a list of things you would like them to say when you meet them and they find out you have twins. If those are actually your responses, you are being no less rude than the people making the comments you find so terrible – more so in some cases because those making the comments most likely aren’t trying to be malicious or snarky.

  4. BKNYtwins says:

    I don’t know…as a SAHM of twins, I was usually pretty happy about it whenever people stopped me on the street or at the store to comment on them. It took such effort to get my act together, and get all 3 of us ready, out of the apartment, down the stoop and out & about with our massive stroller…when someone would ooh & aah over them, I at least felt the struggle was somehow worth it. The only comments that would get to me would be from senior citizens: “Oh, this one looks like you…does the other one look like his daddy?” Never wanted to scandalize well-meaning-but-old-school 80 year olds with the real answer (I have a female partner, and she’s the bio parent even though I carried/birthed them, so the fact one looks like me is pure luck). I just said “Maybe…maybe a little”. It’s not a lie.

  5. lea says:

    When I first had my twin girls, I was told from a couple of people that it was just an extra baby. No biggie. This was coming from people who do not have twins. I do not get comments anymore since they are older, but when they were born I did. I swear I think that people, mostly women, are more rude to moms of multiples or many children than they are to moms of one child. I would often hear rude comments about how to dress them, how to feed them and other stupid things. Maybe I just have always lived in rude areas. Older women seem to be more pleasant so maybe it is the age of the commentor, as well. Except my MIL who always had something rude to say.

  6. Sarah says:

    As a mom of triplets… Screw you to people judging her on what she says back! Until you’re getting swarmed and your children are terrified when you’re just trying to check out at the grocery store, you have no right to comment about the subject! Not to mention I’ve got a very limited time period in a store before someone throws a fit and when everyone stops me to comment you eat into my few remaining minutes. She didn’t add the “better you than me” and “I’d just die if I had multiples” and of course “are they triplets? I’m sorry” seriously people.

  7. Alyson says:

    “You’ve got your hands full!” is usually from little old ladies and my stock reply, “Doubly full!” never fails to charm them.
    @Sarah – “Better you than me” is the worst! How am I supposed to answer that without being shitty about it? I also hate the “Which one is the good one?” They aren’t Cane and Abel, people. But I’ve never minded the blessings bestowed on my babies… I’ll take every ounce of goodwill and good mojo people want to throw at them!

  8. Anonymous says:

    I dont have twins, I have 4 kids. 11, 5, 2, almost 1. the younger ones being 14 months apart.
    I get a lot of these comments oddly enough… I reply back “better full than empty”, “as natural as they can be”…
    I love talking to moms of multiples, out of necessity they have some wonderful tips to share :)

  9. Ddini500 says:

    It’s unbelievable how grumpy and bitchy some pregnant women are regardless if they’re carrying twins or a single baby. The things in this article are t that mind blowing and I’d say some of those things just out of pure ignorance lol. Get over yourself so what if ppl ask if twins run in your family. Your a bitchy person and it’s annoying to hear so many women complain about everything pregnancy and baby related. GET OVER IT. Your not the only one.

  10. Trish says:

    Every time I’m out I get this comment. Every time. Then they see my 4 yr old peek her head out of the double stroller where she sits in the bottom and they say “There’s more?! You REAllY have your hands full!”

  11. Anonymous 2 says:

    I think its funny that this made some people so upset I don’t think she was ” bitching” I just think that after about 10,000 times of hearing the same comments over and over it gets frustrating. As the mother of 2 month old twin girls and a 21 month old I know where she is coming from, and for all of those people saying she is just complaining and needs to get over it do you have multiples? If you do then maybe you are just better at dealing with it but if not then there is no way you can understand trying to run out to the market for a few things and being stooped every ten steps by someone who wants to talk to you about the fact that you have twins.

  12. Anonymous says:

    Oh, lighten up.

  13. Ashley says:

    I still love “are they twins?” as my two tiny infant boys, dressed identically, were in their double stroller. Most of the comments are well meaning, but once you hear them 1000s of times, it does get to be a bit much, especially when you are trying to get through a store with two now 3 year olds running in opposite directions.

  14. Anonymous says:

    My twins are now ten, but I remember well the days of incessant and sometimes invasive questioning. The one that always floored me though was, “Sheez, how’d that happen?” In my sleep-starved condition, it’s a wonder I didn’t fire back with sarcasm, telling complete strangers that I apparently got laid twice in one night. In hindsight, the look on their faces would’ve been so worth it. ;-)

  15. Cyndi says:

    You forgot “I am glad it’s not me!” Me too, lady. Me too…

  16. Anonymous says:

    Love this. I constantly get the same question about my boy/girl twins – Are they identical? I also get the constant statements about how much they look alike. I cannot count the number of times I have explained that they are the same as any other siblings, but with the same birthdate.

  17. Anonymous says:

    Get your panties out of a bunch.

  18. Kalia says:

    Wow. Sarcastic much? Some people are generally curious. We are human after all. Is it too much to answer these innocent questions? Perhaps you have a stick up your butt and would rather society not speak to each other. GMAB. And yes, I have twins. I loved people coming up to me and asking about my babies. Still do and they are 17. The questions asked are all innocent and I learned I could either embrace the beauty of my twins with those I encounter, or I could turn into a real control freak witch who view every comment as negative with ulterior motives.

  19. Anonymous says:

    Question #11- Are you angry?

  20. Anonymous says:

    My twins are 12 now, they’re Easter bunnies. I love it. By time I had them, they’re my 8&9 babies. Now I had told of 12 children nd 5 children nd I still triplets.

  21. LJMK says:

    This was too funny and so true! I was just in the store this morning with my 18 month old b/g twins and an older lady came up to me and stated, “You must be done after them!” I turned around and explained that I am actually 5 months pregnant with our 3rd! I know people are curious and mostly mean well, but sometimes it is just rude.

  22. Alison says:

    Do you mind when good friends ask questions or is it just the random strangers? FWIW, it sounds like you bounced back from twins faster than most people (myself included) bounced back from one baby. It sounds like that is where much of the complimentary commentary is coming from.

  23. christine says:

    sorry- but this is not original- it’s been done hundreds of times…

  24. Mary says:

    As a mother of ten-month-old twins, my heart goes out to you. I’ve heard all of these, and it gets grating after a while. I do mind “do twins run in your family.” I know people don’t mean anything by it, and I’m not ashamed of having IVF, but I also don’t feel like discussing something as personal as my fertility issues constantly, and with strangers. One I’ll never get tired of: “they are adorable.” After all the effort I put into them every day, it’s nice to hear that they are, at least, cute to look at. Take care!

  25. Christina says:

    I am a fraternal twin, and when I tell people I have a twin brother (and I’m obviously a girl), people still ask if we’re identical. I can’t believe that people could imagine boy and girl twins to be identical — take a moment to think it over! I’m 28, and people have been asking me this my entire life; people are hilarious. However, all these other questions I don’t really find offensive. My mom didn’t know she was having twins until a few weeks before we were born because it was totally natural and ultrasounds were not required in the early 80s — although my parents did have suspicions since my mom’s belly was so big.

  26. Brenda says:

    My 4’11″ daughter had twins. She weighed 105 before they were born and weighs 105 now. The twins are identical boys and the questions she gets all the time is “Are they twins” “Did you have them” “How old are You” Yes they are, yes she did (a vaginal birth 9 weeks early) and she was 20 when they were born. Really nobodys business but she or I try to answer questions nicely. The only thing that makes me mad is when people assume they can touch them without asking. This was a big issue when they were small and we didn’t take them out unless we had to but in spite of their “My hands are clean are yours?” sign hanging on their stroller, people thought they could touch their hands. One lady said “OH my God, double trouble” that really made me mad and I told her we really felt doubly blessed since they were preemies and spent 5 1/2 weeks for one and 8 1/2 for the other plus 6 months on oxygen when he got out of the hospital. They do therapy 9 1/2 hours a week because they are developmentally delayed.Thankfully they are catching up. We don’t mind questions, some are evident (such as are they twins) but some are just too personal and none of you business. We have recieved many of the questions you have especially do twins run in the family or did you have in vitro or something? They don’t and she didn’t have in vitro, they were just meant to be I guess. She considers herself one lucky Mom. They boys turn two in a few days. Yes, they have come a long way from the NICU!!

  27. Ro says:

    Wow. I LOVE how people think it’s absolutely acceptable to talk to a woman about her body, her children, and her reproductive practices as if they’re fair game, but if a woman has the AUDACITY to be even a little irritated or offended, then she needs to, let’s see: get her “panties” out of a bunch, “lighten up,” get over it, quit acting like she’s the only one, stop being a baby, BLAH BLAH. Listen, that’s nothing but some outdated sexist BS!

    A woman can talk about her experiences and feel however the hell she wants to feel about them. She can be offended when someone offends her, pissed off when someone pisses her off, and return rudeness with rudeness. Women who walk around with a smile on their faces and accept any comments that anyone makes to them without standing up for themselves aren’t heroes; they’re doormats.

  28. Alicia says:

    Wow, snarky much? Usually these types of articles have some humor, but all I can see is bitterness, even when it comes to a compliment! (“Wow, you look great!” is a compliment by the way, and I imagine it’s given as such because people are understanding that having two babies is typically a bit tougher than just one, both mentally and physically.) Also, someone asking if twins run in your family isn’t putting a gun to your head and forcing you to launch into the story of your IVF. A simple, “No, but we got lucky!” or a “Yup, and we got lucky!” would suffice if you don’t to give them all the details. And it’s not even lying, since it’s true you were lucky that the IVF worked. And the snark about the comments about god; is that necessary? I’m a nonbeliever too, but all those people are doing is (again) paying you and the babies a compliment. Can it be a tad annoying that they’re assuming you believe as they do? Sure, but in the end it’s a simple compliment. The only thing that would drive me crazy is the “Are they identical?” question, especially when it’s very clear they aren’t, but the rest aren’t that big of a deal.

  29. rebeccazw says:

    Wow, you have four-month-old twins and you’re hosting dinner parties? When my twins were four months old I was barely sleeping and definitely still wearing pants with drawstrings;)

  30. M says:

    Another mom of twins weighing in to say that I don’t mind any of these questions. Truly, intentions matter. If someone is saying something nice (even if it’s misguided or if it’s the 3rd time I’ve heard it this morning), then I respond in kind. Why not? Life is short. When people say “Oh my goodness, you have your hands full!” (and they do say that, often) they almost always have a huge smile on their face, and I smile back, and agree with them. I do have my hands full, thankfully, blissfully so.

  31. Confused says:

    So… what ARE you allowed to say to a mom of multiples? Or for any mom, for that matter… I always thought “you look great” was safe to say to anyone. I personally love to hear it. Who wouldn’t?

  32. Jessica says:

    i just think people should not ask the obvious and to treat them like they had normal babies… i had triplets at 32 weeks and 3 days and you cannot imagine the questions i get asked…

  33. Renee says:

    Seriously? Half of those are compliments. Nothing like making a mountain out of a molehill…. or is that another thing you can’t say to a mom with twins?

  34. believerofJesus says:

    Wow,if you are gonna thank a man for the lives of your babies,then too bad! I feel sorry for you,I just hope that those twins will know JESUS as their Lord and Saviour and give Him the honor and glory and praise that HE deserves!! not like their mom,but hey,it’s not too late for you! God loves you so much that He sent His son to die for your sins,and my sins and for everybody’s sins but you need to be humble and accept the fact that apart from the Lord you will never go to heaven.Jesus is the way the truth and the life no man comes to the Father but by him. John 14:6

  35. Anonymous says:

    When my twins were babies people always asked “Are they twins?” After a while it gets old, so my response would be No they are 6 months apart. Some people really had to think about it.

  36. Tired mommy says:

    Another overly defensive parent on babble? Say it ain’t so!

    Seriously, people are just trying to start a conversation with you. Babies are an easy starting point, as they have a lot of things to point out and share. I wouldn’t approach someone asking about politics or religion.

    You’re projecting your emotions and trying to play the martyr. It’s sad and reflects a frightening trend of mommies who think that either a)the world pities them or/and 2) they’re special because they had a kid.

    Give it a break.

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  38. Anonymous says:

    I am an identical twin. I just called my mom and asked her if she was annoyed at things people said to her when we were little. She says she has no recollection of ever giving a shit what anyone said because she was too busy taking care of us.

    People ask me all the time if twins run in our family-its a normal question and has absolutely nothing to do with IVF. Families with generations of twins are pretty cool to a lot of people as I have found, and I’m sure that if anyone ever knew that YOU thought they were trying to find out about your fertility issues, they would think you were ridiculous, because seriously-are YOU interested in the fertility issues of other people? No. And no one is interested in yours. So that is your hang up. Also-do you think people who have never known or had twins sit around and do twin research? How much did you know about twins before you had them? Why do you expect people to know everything about twins?maybe they are just trying to strike up a conversation with you-which according to babble, striking up conversation is on par with slapping a new mom across the face, because that is how offended moms get these days. And sayings like “god Bless you” or “you won the lottery” are just expressions. And they are both nice expressions-so stop being dramatic.

    I love being a twin, I love that people are interested in me and my sister, and that people think we are special. They are interested in our connection and our bond, and people always tell me they wish they they had a twin. And as far as these “stupid” comments from other peope go-your twins are going to have it WAY worse than you, so you should prepare them to handle all of the fun that comes with being a twin with grace and a sense of humor. They are going to be twins for the rest of their lives and you may not want to be such a bitter role model. And yes, I have a sense of humor but I’m really sick of everyone getting SO offended by everything. Be thankful that you have two healthy babies that people want to talk about.

  39. Anonymous says:

    It sounds to me like Mom needs a nap.People are curious and if you don’t like it hide out.Not everyone is as educated as you about the birth of twins. I guess you’d feel better if they ask how much they cost.

  40. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for putting “you’ve got your hands full” on there, we hear this statement EVERYWHERE we go by every other person and my husband has to keep me from choking the next one that says it. I just don’t get why they say it when the twins are clearly well behaved and sitting quietly in their stroller. Just keep your comments to yourselves, and for crying out loud please don’t stop us to doddle when we are obviously in a hurry!!

  41. Anonymous says:

    I find the below retorts interesting, as the individuals who seem to be complaining aren’t parents to twins…
    There is a big difference in how people are making these comments. Sure, one can say, “Your hands are full,” in various ways. Most of the time, however, it is said in a way of astonishment- to stare longer at the two fascinating children riding quietly in their stroller.
    Some people are just plain rude, and staring at people is rude. “Don’t stare, it isn’t polite,” is a rule that people seem to have forgotten. How would people feel if that was stated to a mother with a singleton screaming and kicking in the middle of a grocery store? I’m pretty sure that mother would be just as upset.
    Being a mother of twins is hard, and the snide comments people make while staring at your children isn’t just rude to the mother, it is rude to the children as well. Should we allow people to stare at our multiples, as if they are a science experiment gone wrong (when twins that are scientifically created are experiments gone right)? Should we not be defensive and protective of our precious children? Why does it matter if my children were produced the natural way, or if they were incubated outside of the womb? Whose business is that? Why is it important to ask silly questions to a complete stranger?
    Unfortunately, I am certain that in the direction our society is going, manners will continuously get worse, and that is what this is truly about. If you were friends with a mother of multiples, you would never say any of these comments to you. In fact, I have yet to meet any mother of multiples who has stated any of these comments, and have yet to ask about my conception story. We just know that twins are miracles, and that it is nice to be around people who don’t gawk at them consistently.

  42. Anonymous says:

    I have heard every one of these and more! I am also 5 ft tall and by about 25 weeks, all I heard from random people in stores were, “you look like you’re gonna pop!” My response was to smile and say I’ve still got at least 10 weeks to go! and then their jaws dropped and said it must be twins. I hate having to go out in public bc so many people stop us to look at the babies and ask questions that a quick trip into walmart takes an hour! I love that every one thinks my babies are beautiful, but if I’m in a hurry or I need to get home to feed them, it’s a little annoying… Although, I must admit I love hearing people tell me that I don’t look like I just had twins, bc I still have 15 lbs of extra skin I try to hide!

  43. Anonymous says:

    I know this is weird, but my husband only wants to have one more child, so I am hoping for twins the next time I get marry. I have always wanted twins for some reason, I don’t know why. You can call me crazy or whatever, I don’t care. When I knew that I wanted to be a mom, I knew that I wanted to experience going through a pregnancy with twins and having them.

  44. Anonymous says:

    Seriously? What do you think you’re special because you bought twins. Why don’t you just wait till they can drive to let them out of the house so you can avoid questions about them? And YES God did give them to you. Because they could have never been and they could be no more. IVF is NOT a guarantee! Get over thinking you are better then everyone else because you paid for babies and had them cut out of you. Let me guess you have a nanny too for night time feedings? I can only assume you enjoy the drama

  45. Anonymous says:

    Wow, you seem very bitter to me? Maybe you should have nothad the blessing of children at all? You should be counting your blessings and not care if people are inquiring about your two blessings!

  46. Anonymous says:

    Here’s one for all the people who don’t have twins or children at. As a mother of 5 month old twins and a 2 yr old, I am not ashamed of my babies but it would be nice to go to the grocery store or anywhere for that matter and not have to explain my life story to random people. Those of you that comment on here about hiding your babies if you don’t like it tell me this WHY DO RANDOM PEOPLE NEED TO STOP ME AND ASK IF THEY ARE TWINS AND THEN WANT TO KNOW HOW MUCH THEY WEIGHED AT BIRTH?? That is useless information to them if you wanna “admire” the twins fine but take a look and continue with your day don’t ask me shit about how far did you make it? How big were they? And then when you find out I have a two yr ol you proceed to say I’m glad it’s you can not me. REALLY PEOPLE GET YOUR OWN LIFE AND LEAVE ME ALONE !

  47. Nicole says:

    The amount of anger to this post is astonishing. As a young woman, with no kids yet, I have to say that it’s understandable that you’d get a little irked by responding the the same “compliments” and curiosities every single time you went out. Heck, I look extremely young for my age and Ive been hearing it from strangers every single time I’ve gone out for as long as I can remember. People mean well…but, yes!, it can get annoying. God forbid I’d like to give my ID to the cashier and not be told that I’ll appreciate looking so young when I’m 50. Cut this new mom some slack, guys! I’m sure it’s tiring when you’re already tired. Ps. Why so many Anonymous angry people? I’m really disturbed by the amount of readers giving the author shit about “buying” her babies. That’s a really personal subject – how many people get IVF for the fun of it? I’m really honestly disturbed by 90% of the comments on here.

  48. Anonymous says:

    Last summer I was asked if my twins were born at the same time. I just looked at her and told her that “No, I had one baby, then I had the other.” You really should have added though the comment I hear a lot….I’m glad it’s you and not me. I like to answer that one with something to the effect of “Well, God only gives them to people that can handle it.”

  49. Anonymous says:

    Congratulations on the multiples. You did beat the odds. Do you know how many really started of pregnant with twins but only one survives? Or none at all. Other moms lose multiple babies due to TTTS. I lost my twins due to TTTS. So please forgive if we can’t help but look and smile at twins as some of us are just left wondering of our babies.

  50. Teresa says:

    These mothers seriously think they are Lady Gaga being accosted by the papparazzi.People are just being nice, no one actually gives a shit about your, or your twins and they probably forgot about you the minute they walked away, and you are still pissed. Get over yourselves ladies.

  51. Anonymous says:

    I am a grandmother of fraternal twin girls. My daughter-in-law gets lots of questionsd about the twins especially since one looks so much like their mom with beautiful olive skin and the other one is fair like my son. She listens to all the comments and then reply’s with “We are truly blessed to have the twins.They are healthy and bring us lots of joy”. I have been with her when a lot of comments were made and I have to say people are really nice about their comments. I am so pround of my daughter-in-law and how she handles her self. I love my precious twin granddaughter. I know they will be brought up with the knowledge people are people and some do not think before they speak. I just smile and believe with the way my daughter-in-law and son handle situations like people making silly comments they are great parents. Everyone with twins count your blessing.

  52. momoftwins says:

    I have boy/girl twins and also thought the “are they identical?” questions were absurd…until I researched it a bit and, though very rare, you CAN have b/g twins that start from the same egg and are technically identical. Who knew? I still don’t enlighten people with that because what’s the point? Right now I’m just trying to convince my 3yo daughter that she does not have a penis, yet she insists. I didn’t take the author’s comments as angry, but since when do people ask what position someone was in when they conceived their children? How is that any less offensive than asking details about conception, birth and breastfeeding? I think on the whole, people don’t have the boundaries of decency and respect that they used to have. Just comment on the kids and leave it at that. If a parent wants to elaborate on any aspect of their kids, pregnancy, childbirth, etc., they will. But they probably won’t.

  53. YogaDiva says:

    This is the question I just can’t understand (as a Mom of twins)!!

  54. Anonymous says:

    My 2 sons are 4 years apart, so I can’t speak to the multiples experience. But anytime someone sees me with my 10-week-old baby they want to know how far along I was when he was born (40 weeks 2 days), how much he weighed at birth (8lbs 4oz), how much I gained with him (30lbs, already lost 25 of that and am back to the gym) if he was born with all that hair (yes), if I’m breastfeeding (yes), if he’s sleeping through the night (yes and has been for weeks now), and how well his big brother is adjusting (first few weeks were difficult, now he’s adjusted well and loves to help with the baby). I have no problem answering any of these questions. I’m lucky to have two healthy, beautiful little boys and am not even remotely offended by people’s questions and compliments.

  55. Shebear says:

    As a mom of 5 year old boy-girl twins, I remember being so blissfully happy and proud of my twins that I truly did not mind the questions….I was asked many of the same questions you are complaining about. My husband and I both worked full-time and both of us anwsered questions quite happily People are usually quite sincere and mean no harm.

    I think the writer probably thought she was being clever and witty, but in reality, her writing comes across as sarcastic and jaded. Next time: Get a friend to proof-read your post.

  56. Anonymous says:

    My twin boys are 16 now. Yes, I got asked a lot of the same questions and no, I didn’t mind. Since mine are two completely different kids who happen to share a birthdate I was always amused when people thought they were identical. I never thought having twins was something that might happen to me and was totally shocked when I found out at 20 weeks. When people asked how we ended up with twins, I always said that we just got lucky. But the comment about seeing a woman with triplets once had me rolling on the floor laughing hysterically. Every parent of twins should have at least one other parent with twins for a friend just to keep your sense of humor.

  57. Nandni says:

    MItch & Kristie – Cathie’s right. We do LOVE these pics! We’ve shown the pic to some other people, all of whom were very imesesrpd. Here are some of their comments: that photographers is amazing!! note to self use Lailah when I have kids too cute, you got a great photographer, i love all these pics! I wish I knew about this photographer when Nyla was newborn!!! These pictures are so adorable!!:-) really good photo work. and the babies are wonderful on their own accord as well. WOW!!! These are absolutely breathtaking. Those pics are so amazing. You have two beautiful little ones ? those are gorgeous photos of your babies! these could not have turned out any cuter!!!!

  58. Chikaodi says:

    Michelle – Nice work Lailah..I can’t imagine twins were easy, but you did great! That black and white close up of them hondlig hands is beautiful..love it! And the puckered lips with the little blister..awww.

  59. Jamesley says:

    Gladi – Wow sooo cute. Kimberly these are amazing. Your catitivrey and enthusiasm was outstanding. Watching how you handled these two precious girls, with all the patience in the world, was an inspiration. Thank you for doing such a terrific job.

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