Having A Better Self-Image: Practicing Positive Self-TalkTamara Floyd
With all the self-proclaimed critics in the world, you have to combat negativity with positive self-talk. Improve your body image by complimenting yourself.
I was hanging with some friends. Three of them were talking about counting calories, working out, and losing weight. Each was complaining about what they considered their problem areas. What was supposed to be a relaxing weekend was turning into a guilt trip. The guilt of eating certain things and not working out more regularly were bringing down the mood. And I’m just as concerned or worried about all of those things, but my outlook is a little different.
This also inspired the 10 Annoying Natural Hair Questions article. Women with natural hair have to deal with negative criticism because they choose to wear their hair natural. You don’t have add to the negativity.
When I look in the mirror, I absolutely see how my body has changed since the baby, and then tack on the fact that I’m exiting my twenties. There’s a lot that just ain’t the same. SMH. But I don’t beat myself up about it. I haven’t taken a defeatist attitude either. I’m aware of my calorie intake. I make it a point to work out and eat healthy. But I don’t disparage myself for that extra pound, cellulite sighting, or areas obviously affected by gravity.
If I wouldn’t say it to anyone else, I certainly wouldn’t say it to myself. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Don’t even think it. I’m working on not thinking negative stuff. I don’t want any negative self-talk playing in my head like a broken record. It makes any positive words null and void. You have to be able to pay yourself compliments — and mean it. Replace any negative self-talk with nothing but positivity.
I have found that it’s easier for me to accept compliments when I positively affirm myself in private. The compliments seem more genuine when coming from myself first. The sting of criticism isn’t so bad either. I can take ownership of my mistakes and fix them without feeling like my world is ending. No dwelling on them. Learn, correct (if I can), and move on. Point. Blank. Period.
Improve your body image by complimenting yourself. Replace any negative self-talk with nothing but positive self-talk. Don’t focus on your personal dislikes. Find that one thing that you can genuinely compliment yourself on. Focus on that. Then find other things to add to the list of likes. You’ll see a difference in how you see yourself and the world around you.