Let’s face it. Becoming a parent changes your life in more ways than most of us expect. One such incredibly common yet often unexpected change, particularly for moms, is a temporary loss of self identity. It does not happen all at once and most of the time it happens quite subconsciously. Yet, diaper after diaper and bath after bath, we give ourselves up to those little beings we adore and who rely on us for their basic human needs.
In time, however, we may come to realize that our children are becoming a bit more self-sufficient and that perhaps it is time for us to take a piece of ourselves back. Though we may love those little humans with every fiber of our beings, we realize that it is important to be whole in order to feel whole.
This is not to say that all mothers feel this way, of course. Yet many of us find that we have a need to get back to feeling like ourselves, whether that means physically, intellectually, emotionally, or some combination of the above. For those of us in this camp, clearing that path for ourselves leaves us feeling re-energized in a way that makes us even better parents.
From joining a gym or a book club, to a renewed focus on career or finding an entirely new one, what makes us feel whole will vary from mother-to-mother. While some may know exactly what they need, it may take others some time to figure it out. With motherhood our sense of priorities may change, but it is important to still honor our sense of self. Here’s how these writers found their peace of mind in motherhood: