Kourtney Kardashian is getting a lot of heat these days for opening up about the somewhat controversial attachment-parenting philosophy that she has adopted at home with her two children, Mason and Penelope.
The reality television star explains that attachment parenting came natural to her and whenever her two children sleep in the same bed that she and her partner Scott Disick share, she’s not one to take them back to their own beds, although she does find it challenging at times. She explains:
“They go to sleep in their rooms but end up in my bed, sometimes within minutes. It’s…something we talk about constantly. Mostly there are times each night when the kids are in their own rooms, and sometimes it even lasts all night. Every night is different.”
I mean, I have no idea where it came from because I definitely didn’t sleep with my parents unless I was sick or something. I don’t know, it just kind of grew. I wasn’t reading attachment parenting books before; it’s just what came naturally to me. I think even with different kids, it’s different. Each kid needs something different.”
I’ve read a lot of comments in regards to Kourtney’s decision to allow her children to co-sleep with her and those who think that attachment parenting is nothing but a disservice to our children. Now, while I do feel strongly about setting limits with my children, I’m a huge proponent of attachment parenting. If my children want to sleep in the same bed as I do, it’s fine. If they want to go everywhere I go, that’s fine, too. If I over-parent at times or don’t close the door when I shower (even though they are 6 and 3), so be it.
I don’t give in to my children’s demands, but I understand their need for wanting to feel safe and to spend their early years cuddling together during pillow talk before they enter their dream-like state of mind every night. They want to be physically close to their mother the same way I want to be close to them. It’s not just about a certain type or method of parenting, but just natural parenting. Period.
Now, my children are good, self-sufficient sleepers and I’ve never had a problem putting them to bed during their nighttime routine. That’s not to say that we’re perfect (because Lord knows we’re not as we’ve had our moments!) but I don’t let my children rule the house, or my bed. While they start the night off in their own beds, they usually end up in mine some time in the middle of the night. I don’t kick them out or half-unconsciously take them back to their rooms. It doesn’t bother me, and it doesn’t bother my husband because we know that this isn’t going to last forever.
Or at least I hope not.
Tell us Babble readers, do you co-sleep with your children? What are your thoughts on attachment parenting?
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