“I’m kind of always working,” Cora tells Working Mother of trying to manage it all. “I do a lot of work when the kids are asleep and while they’re in school. My work rotates around the kids. If they run into my home office and need something, I put my work down. When I’m home, I wrap up by five o’clock.”
It’s a delicate balance for Cora and her domestic partner Jennifer with whom she has four boys – Zoran, Caje, Thatcher, and Nash.
It’s not only in the parenting duties that the two moms share duties. Last year both decided to become pregnant with the other’s embryos.
“We had a common sperm donor for all the kids, and we both did in-vitro fertilization,” she reveals. “So I got my eggs harvested once—it was four years ago and I was 39—and so did Jennifer. Then the doctor implanted Jennifer and me with each other’s eggs. So she gave birth to Caje, but he’s my biological child. I carried Nash, but he’s Jennifer’s biological child.”
Because all of the kids were born to a same-sex couple, they had to legally adopt the child they didn’t give birth to even though they were their own biological child. Cora and Jennifer don’t know which is the biological bother to Thatcher as Jennifer had embryos from both implanted.
For Cora life may be crazy and the boys sure do keep her busy, but she wouldn’t change it for anything. Her best working mom advice? Cherish the little things and hold the guilt.
“Remember that you’re setting a great example for your kids,” she says of working. “It can seem like you never have enough time for your family and friends—and you always have guilt—but we’re all in it together. And our kids are better off for it. Make sure you take at least 20 minutes to be with your family at dinner. It’s a sacred time.”
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