Jessica Alba uses (and sells) nontoxic disposable diapers – but she doesn’t have the time and effort to commit to less-wasteful cloth diapers. She eats organic, locally grown natural food as often as possible – but she’s not above eating bacon or taking her children to a fast-food place every so often. And her new book, The Honest Life, offers lots of suggestions on living a healthy, more natural life – but she doesn’t expect readers to embrace every single one.
In other words, she understands that moms live in the real world, and that what works for one mother may not work for another. More importantly, she’s tired of the Mommier-Than-Thou types who look down their noses at those who don’t (or can’t) make the “right” parenting choices.
“When you become a mom, the last thing you want is to feel judged, because everyone is doing the best they can,” she tells People this week.
Jessica refuses to take sides on even the biggest mom hot-button issues. A woman who uses formula “shouldn’t be made to feel like she’s a bad mom,” she says, and some women “literally are better parents” if they hold full-time jobs.
Her own parenting choices are as varied as any mom’s. For instance, she tries to give Honor and Haven plenty of whole natural foods and not too many sugary sweets, but they still enjoy an occasional cupcake or dinner at a chain restaurant.
And while education is important to her, so is being there for her girls. It won’t be long before Honor is in kindergarten, but Jessica plans to continue taking her on work-related trips whenever she can, even if it means pulling her out of school and having her study with a tutor for a few days. “It’s more important for me to spend time with her than to not,” she says.
Don’t like the idea of all those school absences? Can’t be bothered to swap out your cosmetics and cleaners for greener brands? You won’t get any arguments from this actress – as long as you don’t bash her for the way she lives. Mom-on-mom judging is just as toxic to the environment as car exhaust.
[Photo: via PacificCoastNews]
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