Elizabeth Edwards: It Wasn't Easy To Say Goodbye, John & I Raised Four Children And Buried OneMara Siegler
There has been a big build up to Elizabeth Edwards’ interview in People magazine. She was silent until now on the scandal that rocked her marriage. Her recent press tour is to support her book Resilience which chronicles both her relationship with John in the wake of his cheating and love child scandal and also her cancer.
Elizabeth and John are separated, but not divorced and Elizabeth seems to have no use for making things official. “I say, Until you want to get married again, I don’t have a need.'”
Elizabeth has spoken out against John’s mistress Rielle Hunter on a few occasions, but isn’t spitting any bile towards John. She claimed earlier in the week that she wants her children to continue to look at their father in a positive light and is staying away from saying anything negative about him.
The National Enquirer recently reported that John has been picking up women in bars, a story corroborated by The New Republic who discovered he was at a drinking establishment dancing to Wreckx-n-Effect’s 1992 rap hit ‘Rump Shaker.’ Yeah, it’s gotten that sad. Elizabeth doesn’t think so though. “He’s made friends, and I think it’s important for me to give him room to do that. It was hard [for him] to live with somebody who’s disappointed in him, so to find people who aren’t is a really healthy thing for him.”
John is no longer seeing Rielle, or at least that is what he tells Elizabeth who admits, “I’m the last person in the world who knows the truth about these things.”
You can’t help but want to hug this woman after knowing what she’s gone through. She’s faced the dissolution of her marriage bravely on top of having to face a life-threatening disease. To hear her tell it in her own words is beyond heartbreaking.
“When I see John, I don’t just see the today that others see. I see all the memories – the look on his face when he held our children as newborns, and embarrassed pride as he showed his parents through our first house, the loving way he looked at me when we were with others, the soft and vulnerable way he looked at me and held me when we were alone. We have raised four children, and we have buried one. So when I closed the door on the John of today, I also had to say good-bye to that sweet man whom I had loved for so long. It was not as easy as it might have seemed to anyone looking in from the outside, who knew only the John of today. And I have to wonder if he is sad, too, when he thinks of that young man.