Ellen DeGeneres does not want children.
Let’s say that again: She. Does. Not. Want. Children. Neither does her wife, Portia De Rossi.
And when she says she doesn’t want children, she doesn’t mean she might want them when she’s a little older, or when her schedule slows down, or after the presidential election, or when we finally colonize Mars.
Ellen DeGeneres, funnywoman extraordinaire, beloved talk-show host, the voice of Dory in Finding Nemo and recent recipient of a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, does not want to be a mother. Ever.
She’s addressed the issue before – most notably in her last book – but the rumors still crop up every now and then. Even Jay Leno couldn’t resist asking her last night whether she and Portia were starting a family.
As reported by Us Weekly, Ellen replied, “I’ve said it so many times: We are not going to have a child. And they say that we’re looking for the right [sperm] donor. Although you would be a good donor, so I’ll keep that in mind, just in case.”
Everyone got that? Good. Subject closed.
Now let’s give a round of applause to Ms. DeG. for following her heart and instincts about parenthood.
We’ve gone from being merely a celeb-obsessed society to becoming a celeb-parent-obsessed society. At red-carpet events, we look closely at starlets’ gowns for any sign of a curve. When they do announce a pregnancy, we follow their progress right up to the delivery room. Magazines devote whole columns to photos of famous moms and dads swinging their tots at the playground or dipping their tiny toes into the surf at Malibu or Bermuda.
Yes, that includes us here at Famecrawler, too. We freely admit loving to see celebs with their children and hearing their insights on raising their families.
But we also know that not having kids is just as valid a choice as having a Duggar-sized clan. We know that not every woman feels the desire to raise a child – and that it doesn’t make her any less of a woman or a person than someone who does.
So Ellen should be praised, not questioned or hounded, for knowing who she is and what she wants. Instead of dodging the subject or offering ambiguous answers – “maybe someday” or “when the time is right” – she tells it like it is. Ellen isn’t Khloe Kardashian, who’s actively trying to have a baby, or Kate Middleton, whose place in history will be secured when she produces the future crowned head of Great Britain. Motherhood isn’t her goal in life.
This isn’t the first time the daytime star has dared to stand up for herself. She came out (on a magazine cover, no less!) at a time when performers adhered to the “don’t ask, don’t tell” philosophy more closely than they do today. Now she’s saying, “Yep, I Don’t Want Kids,” and that’s all that needs to be said.
She’s gay. She doesn’t want to be a mom. And we love her.
[Photo: via PacificCoastNews.com]
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