Giuliana Rancic: "I Chased My Career" Instead of MotherhoodShana Aborn
She’s over-the-moon thrilled to be a mother at last. She calls life with baby Edward Duke “baby heaven.” But looking back on the long road she took to get there, Giuliana Rancic sometimes wonders whether she had her priorities straight.
“I always say how I chased my career instead of chasing guys,” the E! News host tells the new issue of Health magazine. “And everybody was patting me on the back.” But after waiting till she was 33 to get married to Bill Rancic, and then holding off on trying to start a family for a couple of years after that, it came as an unexpected surprise to her that she couldn’t get pregnant naturally.
“No one ever told me, ‘Oh, by the way, your eggs change when you reach a certain age,” she tells the magazine. “So when the doctor told me, ‘Oh, it’s not as easy as you thought it would be,’ it was a real blow. Because I felt so young.”
What followed was a four-year ordeal of infertility treatments and repeated heartbreak. Her first IVF attempt ended in miscarriage, and the second didn’t take. “I just could not believe you go through so much to get those eggs and put them in, and when the doctor calls you, to hear, ‘Oh, sorry, it didn’t work.’ That was the biggest blow of all,” Giuliana recalls.
“And then you watch these TV shows, 16 and Pregnant, and these girls who want nothing to do with their babies are pregnant,” she continues. “And you’re going, what? None of that made sense to me.”
Then, as her fans know well, Giuliana was diagnosed with early-stage breast cancer as she was about to proceed with her third in vitro attempt. She and Bill decided to use the embryos they had planned to use in IVF to try pregnancy via a gestational surrogate. “So we met this lovely French girl who lived in America and she carried our baby for nine flawless months,” she says. Little Duke is already two months old.
But how productive is it to talk about regrets long after the fact? It’s easy to kick yourself over choices not made in earlier years, but would 25-Year-Old Giuliana really have buckled down to husband-hunting if 37-Year-Old Giuliana had been able to tell her what she was in for?
Even she admits that had she had it to do over again, she wouldn’t have rushed to preserve her eggs for the future. “A lot of people throw that out there, like, ‘Oh, just freeze your eggs,'” she says. “That is major. That’s surgery!”
Besides, if she had focused on marriage and family earlier in her life, she wouldn’t have met and married Bill, and little Duke wouldn’t be here today. Worse, her breast cancer might have been diagnosed at a much later stage; it was discovered by chance, because she needed a mammogram as part of her last IVF prep.
Better to focus on the here and now, be thankful for the blessings she has and look to the future. She tells Health that she and Bill are “open to adoption if we decide to have more kids,” but that they might also try surrogacy again because they still have embryos “on ice.”
What do you think? Should Giuliana have made different life choices, or is it better that she has both a thriving career and a family?
[Photo: via Pacific Coast News]
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