How I Met Your Father: Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka Talk About Their Romance and Family

Neil and David hope to be married one day

Valentine’s Day may be a month away, but seeing couples genuinely in love is enough to get you in a hearts-and-flowers mood even on a nondescript January day.

Case in point: the interview with Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka in the new issue of Out magazine. The cover boys of the annual Love Issue talk about how they met, what keeps them together, their hopes for the future – and why children were always part of their plan.

And the accompanying photos? Tender and moving. Wow – good relationships might actually exist in Hollywood after all.

The couple initially met through a mutual friend, but they were living on separate coasts – and David was already seeing someone. “When we all hung out for the first time…I just stammered around him. I couldn’t take my eyes off him,” says NPH.  “I initially fell for David before he fell for me.”

David thought Neil was, “adorable…with these amazing blue eyes that are hypnotizing to me.” Just a week after David broke up with his boyfriend, the two were dating. Now that they’re together, David calls Neil “my lifeline, in an amazing way. I can’t breathe without him.”

But that lifeline would have been quickly severed if they weren’t both family men. “If he hadn’t wanted kids, I don’t think we’d be together,” says David. “I always thought family was the most important thing in life, and no matter what I do, whether being a chef or an actor or a dancer, being a dad is what I do best.”

The two ultimately decided that they didn’t want to wait too long to start their family. “We wanted our parents to enjoy the process and to be young and vibrant enough to throw a ball with them, or to chase them around without using a walker,” explains Neil. “That was the eternal game-changer – now we rarely fight in the big ways. Why should we? We’re in this for a major long haul.”

Their fraternal twins are entering toddlerhood. Son Gideon was named for a painter whose works they collect, while daughter Harper is the namesake of To Kill a Mockingbird author Harper Lee. David calls himself the “maternal one” who rarely left the children’s side during their first year.

What’s next for the happy family? Neil would love to be able to move his ring from his right hand to his left. Not a fan of the terms partner or boyfriend, he says “it would be nice to say ‘my husband.’ ”

And it would be nice for the rest of us to call them that as well!

David insists that he and Neil don’t want people to think their relationship is perfect – but I can think of lots of celebrity couples who could stand to learn a few lessons in love from them.

[Photo: Pacific Coast News]

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