Is It Bad Etiquette for Mothers to Have Second or Third Baby Showers for Their Children?Joanna Mazewski
Celebrity mama-to-be Gwen Stefani recently celebrated her baby shower with her closest friends and family in Beverly Hills, as she is expecting her third son this spring. Many high-profile friends including Jessica Alba, Gwyneth Paltrow, Chelsea Handler, and more helped Gwen celebrate the joyous occasion with baby-blue decorated donuts, gorgeous table settings, and an incredibly creative “baby” cake for her guests.
Now, as lovely as the baby shower was, I couldn’t help but notice a string of commentary about Gwen having the shower in the first place. After all, this is her third son and she has two older boys that are close in age. It has many people asking, “Is it in bad form to have a baby shower for multiple pregnancies” or is a celebration a celebration no matter how many children you decide to have?
While many think it’s bad etiquette to have a baby shower for your second or third child (or to even host the shower for yourself), there are others who say each child is a blessing in itself, therefore why not party?
Now while I have attended many baby showers in the past, I think the “no baby shower” rule shouldn’t apply if there is a huge age gap between your first and second child or your second and third. However, if you have back-to-back pregnancies with children close in age, it may seem a bit excessive and in bad form to ask guests to bring gifts off a registry when you might already have many items at home from your first newborn. And to take it one step further, in some parts of the world like Russia, it’s bad form to have a baby shower before the baby is born.
While the super rich such as Gwen Stefani and the rest of Hollywood do play by a different set of rules, if I were in Gwen’s shoes, I would definitely do what Nicole Richie and her husband Joel Madden did a few years ago with their first child they donated all of their baby gifts to a charity for expectant mothers in need. And while many of their friends donated their gifts to charity, they also gave Nicole and Joel a children’s book to keep to help build their baby’s library. Talk about a sweet idea, right?
Back in our non-celebrity world, there’s also the idea of having “sprinkles” or baby “meet-and-greets” once the mother’s new bundle of joy is born. That way, family and friends of the mother don’t have to sit through multiple baby showers and games for the same family and instead actually get to meet the baby once he or she is born.
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