I think it was Erma Bombeck who used to joke that with each child a mom has, she becomes less and less uptight about parenting; by the third or fourth child, she’s letting the kid play with splintery wood toys and rubbing the dirty pacifier off on her shirt before popping it back into his mouth.
Jessica Alba hasn’t gone quite that far, but as she explains in her new blog for iVillage, having a second baby has still made her change her overprotective ways.
“[W]ith Haven, in a nutshell, I’m more relaxed,” she says. “I try not to let every cough or bump on the head freak me out because Honor made it through infancy in one piece and I trust Haven will too.”
She also credits having a second baby – Haven is 8 months; big sis Honor is 3 – with helping her let go of her need for perfection.
“I’ve never been a true ‘helicopter mom,’ but I’ve definitely stayed awake for endless hours doing research on everything I could do wrong as a parent – from accidentally exposing them to toxic chemicals to buying products that had been recalled by the manufacturers,” she admits. “I really wanted to create the perfect environment for my daughters to excel and grow, but with Honor I found that I often made more mistakes trying not to make any mistakes.”
The bottom line? Being present in the moment and enjoying your kids is a lot more important than doing everything “right.” It’s a lesson we all have to learn – and relearn – along the parenting journey.
Thanks for the reminder!
Read the full blog here.
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