It happens to all of us. You say something without thinking about your words carefully and people take the meaning and misconstrue it. For example: “My, you look healthy.” Now you could mean they look well and glowing and all the other things health connotes, but chances are the person hearing those words will think you’re calling them fat.
These kinds of verbal misunderstandings can lead to squabbles and fights, but hopefully once you explain yourself the offended party will get it and forgive you. This is what Biggest Loser trainer Jillian Michaels is trying to accomplish after telling Women’s Health magazine she had no interest in pregnancy because “I can’t handle doing that to my body.” Upset moms and bloggers took it as the ultimate vanity, that pregnancy would ruin her figure and subsequently lashed out.
However, it’s actually a medical problem.
Jillian tells MomLogic.com:
“The truth is, I learned very early on that I have endometriosis and polycystic ovaries. I was always told that fertility would/could be a problem for me. Why do I have this? I’ve heard everything from “You have too much caffeine in your body” to “It’s genetic” to “You need to be put on birth control pill” — and I don’t believe in using synthetic hormones. In order to get pregnant, I know it would require surgery. For me, it becomes a sort of “I can’t handle doing that.”
I’ve always just accepted that this is my thing, and this must mean I was meant to adopt, and that’s okay. But who knows … there might be advances in science for women with endometriosis, so I’ll never say never. But, for now, I plan to adopt.”
Jillian says she held back the information because she was ashamed and many people in her position would not have shared it publicly. Infertility can cause serious emotional pain and is a highly personal issue. It’s not something to discuss with just anyone or a stranger who wanted to print it in a national magazine.
Some good did come out of the whole non-scandal. Woman have now begun to approach Jillian to tell her how scared they are about what happens to their bodies during and after pregnancy. Many feel that they can not ever talk about this because it isn’t politically correct.
“I think it’s incredibly important that we allow each other to be scared, and to have feelings that are less than perfect — just so we can open up the dialogue with each other, and share, support, and encourage,” she says and she is right, no matter how you look at it.