Sure, she may look like the picture of confidence and self-assurance in photos like these, but inside, Kourtney Kardashian is as conflicted as the rest of us about the demands and decisions of motherhood.
She told Us Weekly the other day that making the time to stay in shape is tough when she has two young children to care for. “Sometimes I think, Why should I work out when I can spend time with my kids? I feel guilty doing something for me.”
Pushing herself to drop the pounds after having son Mason three years ago took a toll on her both physically and emotionally. She says she lost sight of her priorities, but now has them straight.
Her solution: staying home to work out. “The trainer comes over at 7 in the morning while my kids are still asleep, so I don’t have any mom guilt,” she says.
Who can’t relate to that? The mom-guilt part, I mean, not the personal-trainer-making-house-calls part. Whether it’s the pangs over holding down a full-time job or the self-loathing that washes over us when we yell or nag at our kids, guilt is as much a part of motherhood as smelly diapers, sippy cups and toys on the floor.
Take a look at our gallery to see which other famous moms admit to feeling this common emotion (and you just know that plenty of others feel the same way)!
Jessica Simpson: Working late
The actress/singer/designer/TV host has a lot of hats to wear - and that sometimes means late nights. She's said that she feels guilty on those days she gets home after baby daughter Maxwell's bedtime. Will she change her work schedule when the new baby comes along? Source: Whattoexpect.
Many moms either can't or choose not to breastfeed, and they're often made to feel ashamed of their choice. Bethenny wanted to nurse daughter Bryn, but she could only produce enough milk for an occasional feeding, so she had to supplement. "I feel guilty about that and like a failure," she once said. Source: Parade.
Her mom-guilt moment actually had a happy ending. As a baby, older daughter Honor managed to tear open one of her "eco-friendly" diapers and start putting the absorbent beads into her mouth. Horrified, the actress was inspired to found The Honest Company, which produces and delivers safe baby products. Source: NBC.
Like fellow celeb mom Jessica Simpson, the No Doubt singer has a lot of projects to manage in addition to raising sons Kingston and Zuma. "She thinks she's failing at everything," says bandmate Tony Kanal. Gwen readily agrees. While recording her new album, "I felt so guilty," she told Vogue. "I am letting down everyone in the studio right now; I'm letting down my kids, I'm letting down myself." Source: Vogue.
The three-time Olympic gold medalist beach volleyball player has two young sons, plus a baby girl on the way. (She was newly pregnant when she competed in the London Olympics!) But being a champ has its drawbacks, too. Kerri said in an interview last year that she felt guilty leaving her boys home during a two-week trip to China. "[I]t was a tough decision to not bring my sons, but I knew it was better to have them home and in a good routine." Happily, Joseph and Sundance were there to watch their mom earn gold last summer. Source: Working Mother.
"Mothering Guilt comes up for me daily," writes the actress on her website, WhattheFlicka.com. When she was filming "Desperate Housewives," her two daughters were still toddlers, and she felt pangs about enjoying her job so much. "Men don't seem to have this emotional conflict," she writes. "When they make a personal choice, it is not a problem." Source: WhattheFlicka.
The star of "The Good Wife" sometimes feels like a not-so-good mom. "[Y]ou feel stretched, and you feel like you can't waste a minute," she says of parenting son Kieran. "...And every now and then, you fall asleep standing up or have a horrific moment, hopefully alone in your bathroom, and sob your eyes out and say, 'I can't do it all!' " Source: Lilsugar.
Poppy adores her 4-year-old son, Jackson, but she confesses that she often struggles with the guilt over not being the perfect mom. She admits to such parental misdeeds as losing her temper, not baking organic treats and letting Jackson wear a Spider-Man costume for days at a time. "Why are we parents so critical of ourselves?" she wrote in her blog for People. "What is it with the guilt?" (And now that she's expecting her second child, will she feel twice the guilt?) Source: People.
Shana Aborn is a writer and editor specializing in women's lifestyle issues. Formerly on staff at Ladies' Home Journal and MAMM, she is currently managing editor of Life & Beauty Weekly.
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