Every family with kids has one extra member in the household: the ever-popular Not Me. He doesn’t take up much space, since he only shows up to lose, spill and break stuff while the innocent children stand by.
Honestly, you wonder why the FBI hasn’t put this guy on their Most Wanted list.
Well, the sneaky fellow put in an appearance at Kate Gosselin‘s house the other day, as she explains in her blog. As she was tidying up, she noticed that the family’s globe was missing half of the equator. “Someone had peeled it back and in the process had ‘wiped out’ parts of a few countries!” she says.
She brought up the topic at dinner that night, hoping that one of her eight – Mady, Cara, Hannah, Alexis, Leah, Joel, Collin or Aaden – would confess to doing it or to seeing a sibling in the act. Sure enough, Not Me was fingered as the culprit.
Kate explained that “this was more about honesty and less about damage to the globe!” Still no one spoke up. But the kids thought Joel had a guilty look in his eye, so he got a grilling from Mom. He kept up the denial.
Even a smart strategy that would have let the guilty party identify him/herself without being seen by siblings failed. What was a mom to do? “I was frustrated and disappointed at this point because I felt like I had a lying group of kids on my hands – something I had always harped against!” Kate says.
A bit harsh? Maybe. But when you’re confronted with a “I know I didn’t teach my kid to do that” situation, it’s easy to wonder whether you’ve committed major #momfail.
Finally, she had to let the subject drop and hope that remorse would be enough punishment for the globe-wrecker.
Sure enough, it was – later that evening, one of the girls came to Kate privately and admitted to the deed. The reality-star mom immediately hugged her daughter and thanked her for telling the truth. “I reminded her how important it is to ‘always tell the truth’ and asked her to always ‘remember the globe’ so that next time she would proudly offer the truth because it is right and also so that she could avoid that awful feeling of guilt!”
But Kate did insist on one thing: The child had to apologize to Joel for letting him take the blame earlier. “No one ever told me that being a mom would be this difficult,” Kate concludes.
I’m sure that every mother reading this would say she’s preaching to the choir.
What do you think? Would you have handled the situation the same way?
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