The Gosselin family’s dining-room table (seen here) is a lonelier place now. Famed mom-of-eight Kate Gosselin announced on her blog for The Stir that the children’s Betta fish, Fabio, went to the Big Aquarium in the Sky last week.
Just a couple of weeks earlier, Kate mused on her blog about the short lifespan of pet fish and how she planned to deal with the issue when the time came. “I’ve already made a plan to rush to our local pet store when no one is looking to find a ‘fishy body double’ if need be – to save the kids the sadness of losing their table top friends,” she wrote.
But fate – and Fabio – intervened. The finny friend started showing definite signs of distress just as the children came home from their weekly visit with dad Jon, and died shortly afterward. Rather than hiding him and getting a replacement, Kate broke the news gently, and they all wept together.
“I realize that he’s ‘just a fish,’ but he was our first fish and a unique part of our close-knit family,” Kate writes. “He was sort of a symbol of new beginnings, since he joined our family the very first Christmas that we celebrated as a family of only 9.”
All the Gosselin children – 12-year-old Cara and Mady and 8-year-old sextuplets Leah, Hannah, Alexis, Joel, Aaden and Collin – agreed right away that they wanted to hold a proper funeral. With the help of some craft-store supplies, the whole family created a handsome coffin. (Alexis, who worried that Fabio might “dry out” under the ground, lined the box with damp sponges.)
The burial was held in the garden, and a homemade gravestone and plastic flowers mark the spot where Fabio lies. “Although possibly perceived as excessive, I used this opportunity to honor the life of our pet, but more importantly to help teach my kids the value of ALL life – whether a pet or a person,” Kate says. “Although we are still sad that our table is a little emptier, the kids seemed pleased and mostly comforted by the way his death was handled.”
This wiser mom now realizes that letting her children cope with their emotions was a better solution than trying to sneak in a substitute. In fact, the eight siblings have decided that they don’t want a new fish right away.
But when they do, the newcomer will have an “F” name.
What do you think? Have you ever held a pet funeral?
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