Despite Kate Gosselin being the one to file for divorce first, she says it was Jon who wanted out, and wanted out for a very long time. She never would have gone this route, but felt she had no choice.
Kate told PEOPLE:
“He does not want to be married to me anymore. No questions asked, he went and hired a lawyer and said you better get one. So I did. I never would have made that step; I never would have done it.”
Gosselin said she nor Jon ever used the words “separation” or “divorce” when telling their eight children. But Kate admits, “I’m not naive. I know that my kids will come out of this to a degree, with some sort of dysfunction. I’m not stupid.”
Senior writer for People magazine, Michelle Tan, told The Early Show on Wednesday, that the reality TV star is “going through a myriad of emotions.”
Tan added, “There are days where she feels relief. Right now, this is the end of a lot of tension that’s been building for the last six months. To actually have a resolution, albeit not a happy one, she’s sensing some relief but, at the same time, she’s feeling like she’s failed. This is a woman who has never quit at all at anything she’s ever done.”
One of the Gosselin twins, according to Tan, said she wasn’t surprised by her parents splitting (aw, how sad is that?). The younger kids however, aren’t as aware of what’s happening. It will take time for the news to register.
Tan said, “And the little kids just said, ‘You know what, it’s great, when is my next snack?’ They’re very young. It will take time for them to register.”
Kate said their TLC show is not to blame for the breakdown of their marriage – it would have happened regardless. “This is a situation that absolutely would have happened whether the cameras were here or not. I don’t want people thinking we traded marriage for fame. Ever.”
As for where she and Jon are now? Kate said, “I don’t hate Jon. He’s lost, he’s confused. I don’t look at him 100 percent of the time with horrible anger and animosity.”
Jon and Kate have started negotiating the terms of their divorce.
Kate is right, their kids will no doubt have some issues, coming from divorced parents, but, that doesn’t mean they can’t lead wonderful, fulfilled lives! If Jon and Kate keep their focus on the well-being of the kids, stay civil to one another and show each other respect, those kids will be just fine in the long run. Good luck Gosselins!